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Registered: 11-17-2004
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 6:26pm

Hi, just starting reading here. I am a 27 yr old mother of four ages 2 to 8 years. I have been married for almost 9 years. That said, for the past year I have had more and more difficult days. Sad days all day long, do not want to get out of bed days. ALWAYS tired, laundry piled up (WAY up) and that is not me at all. I have had alternate days of all of these for years, but the last year or so things are really bad. Then my Dad passed away after a short battle with lung cancer in October, and I have done a nosedive from there, which is suprising since we were not close. He was an alcoholic and had sexually abused me a few times. My mother was controlling and overprotective, always laying all her problems on me.

My husband doesn't understand why I am acting like I am. He takes it personally. like it is something he is not doing although he is critical of me as well, although he does not see it that way. I guess I just don't know what to do. I saw my Dr. 2 years ago and he gave me Wellbutrin XL which DID NOT HELP!I gave up after that until now. Now I feel like I absolutly cannot go on like I am. I have another appt. Friday to see what else I can do. Any suggestions?? I really need to do something!

Nicole

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Registered: 07-01-2004
In reply to: niki2120
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 7:15pm

((Nicole)) Welcome to the board! First pat your self on the back for making an appointment.

First, don't yell at yourself for having a tough grieving process. Sounds to me like you have every right to be a bit confused about the life and death of your father. I know many folks here can relate to not so understanding parents. Let yourself grieve, and please tell your husband that it is not about him. He needs you to, men are not so smart, they don't get it. Sad but true. lol

As for wellbutrin, don't give up on all meds because one did not work. There are many good ones out there. You never know what might work. Most people succeed best with a combination of meds and therapy.

I am glad that you have figured out you need help. Be sure that your doc knows about any and all issues.

Welcome again!

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)
Co-CL Depression Support