Job Recommendation..Im Scared!

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Job Recommendation..Im Scared!
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 5:33pm
Hi. Well basically my landlord asked me if I mind him recommending me for this part time job & I said sure b/c I just didnt feel assertive...Well Im scared if I get it. I dont want it because I commited to staying at my current job plus its off campus so Id have to spend time on the bus. So if I get this job then what do I do? The only excuse I can make is that I dont want to spend time on the bus. In the new job I would get paid $2.50-$3.00 more (Canadian) than what I currently get, but I like working on campus.. Should I say something to him b4 he makes the recommendation? Please HELP!!
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Registered: 07-01-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 10:56pm

Idreamy, here is the big question. Would the money you are making (more) make up for the extra bus?

When I have a decision like this. I write down all the pros and cons, and rate them 1 to 10. I try and do 10 points, the closest one to 100 wins.

Just my two cents with decision making.

I hope it has helped.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Take care,
Lisa-)

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 9:57am

Hey there,

If you really don't want it, I think you should just tell him that you've had a chance to think it over, and you aren't interested after all. Give him your reasons if you want, and that's that! He's probably trying to help you out, and I doubt he'd take offence if you told him you're not interested. One thing my dh taught me to do, which has helped me a lot, is that if someone asks me to do something and I don't want to but can't say no, I just say, "Let me think about and I'll get back to you." That gives me time to think of a good reason to say no instead of saying yes and then feeling angry and resentful.

Good luck!

Nicola

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Registered: 11-19-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:44pm
It's OK. It just a recommendation. You don't have to take it if it is offered and you don't have to explain why. Thank him for thinking about you and tell him that you are happy where you are.
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Fri, 11-19-2004 - 10:16pm
You guys have such great ideas. Thanks so much. He is very pushy, and when I told him that I worked at a coffee shop on campus he said "What?! I thought you were going to univerisy!!" & I thought at first that he meant that he thought I quit school to work, but he corrected me & meant "you go to university and work at a coffee shop? You should be doing a better job" <-Those arent his exact words but rather his implication..So that kind of bothers me. Anyhow yes he's quite pushy & me being a "pushover" doesnt help. I appreciate your advice everyone & Ill take it up, take care!