A dear friend lost her baby *triggers*
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| Tue, 11-23-2004 - 9:18am |
I am feeling very, very sad today. One of my closest and oldest friends called me yesterday to tell me that her baby (20 wks gestation) had died. He had liver and heart failure and was causing her an infection, so she had to be induced. Of course, with his problems and being so early, he died. She and her dh consulted to surgeons who told them that the baby would require a liver and heart transplant at birth, which would be virutally impossible on such a tiny baby. She is just devastated, but her dh doesn't want to talk about it with anyone else, and she hasn't told anyone except me the whole story (just told her mother he was born early). I guess the good news is that the baby didn't suffer at all. It may actually be a genetic problem they didn't know about, so they will be tested. If they test positive they will do IVF and have the embryos tested.
This is just so horrible; I don't understand why these things happen. This is their first child and they tried for 2 years to get pregnant. Just last week, someone left a healthy, newborn baby boy in a plastic bag in a park in a city near here, and now these lovely people lose their baby...How does this happen?
I'm sorry to be such a downer; I am just so, so upset. I want to ask you for your prayers to send these people strength and hope.
Love, Nicola

You and your friend both have my prayers.
Thanks for your prayers, Tracy. I know you are going through a difficult time, too, so I appreciate your taking the time to reply. They did see two counsellors at the hospital, but I don't know if they will get on-going follow-up. I will ask her when she's feeling up to it.
This is a major trigger for me b/c it's bringing up feelings about my miscarriage 6 years ago, and it makes me feel bad for all the times I've yelled at my kids (incl. last night). But at the same time, it makes me appreciate my little ones so much, esp. my son (b/c it was a boy) and to remember that they are very precious.
Thanks again,
Nicola