No support people

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Registered: 02-03-2004
No support people
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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 2:11pm
Hi, a loooong time ago I used to come to this board regularly. Much time has past and I feel the need to come back. How do you get a support group? I do not want to go to support group meetings. What I am getting at is how to make your family acknowledge and support. Just very recently I came out of a phsy ward. About 3 years ago I was in one also. No one wants to talk about it. It is just to be swept under the carpet and not talked about. No one in my family called or came to visit. When I was released, my girlfriend took a full day off from work to get me. That is one person and I owe her so much for doing since she had to drive an hour and a half (thank goodness of map quest). We've been extremely close for many years and know each is totally th ere for the other.
But my family -- how do I get to help me in increasing my support group instead of letting me to feel unworthy to talk about any problems I may have. Sure would like any suggestions......................
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Registered: 09-02-2004
In reply to: wispie
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 4:39pm

Hi there! I'm so sorry that you are feeling so alone.
I really don’t have much advice due to not knowing your whole story. I do think that it would be important to continue on talking about your problems with whom ever you’re comfortable with. I think the more you talk about them the easier they are to deal with and it is always great getting advice from someone to help you along with what ever it is your are having to deal with.

I do feel sad that you do not have your family to support you I think that family should be one you can lean on. If you ever want share your story we are here. Take care
Bettina

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Registered: 01-27-2004
In reply to: wispie
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 6:16pm

(((((Wispie))))), this is more common than you know.

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In reply to: wispie
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 8:13pm
Hi Wispie. Im glad that you decided to come back here. Im sorry to hear about your family not acknowledging the problem. If I try to see their point of view..it would be that they most likely are afraid and sad because it pains them to see you this way. I think by physically avoiding the psych ward & avoiding talking about it, that is the only way they know how to cope. I dont think its healthy though, and I know it hurts. I dont think they realize that it hurts you more for them to ignore it.
Maybe by sitting down and talking with them about it, they will open up. It depends on the person though, so try to approach it gently. I wish I could give you better advice, but I think that visiting this site and at least looking for solutions is a great start. I hope others can give you more advice, HUGS :)