He wants divorce

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
He wants divorce
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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 10:48pm
Long story short, I have been suffering from depression for a while now. I finally got into therapy and on meds a few months ago. I have been getting better, but am obviously not my "old self." Throughout all of this, my husband and I have been having problems. He is in the Navy and is under a lot of stress. It seems I rarely see him between all of the stuff he has to do. After finding out he didn't ask for leave for our first anniversary, as planned, I was so hurt (esp. since he decided he needed to de-stress instead of spending Thanksgiving together). I ended up suggesting we spend some time apart to reevaluate our relationship and our priorities. Monday morning he told me he wanted a divorce (I suggested seperating on Thursday). He claims I am not the confident person he married and that we've tried and things have are still bad. I feel abandoned. Yeah, I know things are hard, but I am still healing. I just don't know what to do. I don't want a divorce. All I wanted was to spend more time with my husband. I feel like he is simply quitting. Would he quit if I had cancer???? And most of all, I am scared at how this is going to affect me mentally.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 12:32am

(((((Kitten))))), I'm so sorry.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 6:47pm

Kitten welcome to the board.


Im soo sorry things are so hard right now.

*hugs             

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 6:51pm
dear kittenpants,
I am so sorry.
Just wanted to post and let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers at this time.
My ex-husband and I separated and it was in November. We did eventually divorce.
It is not my favourite month and reading your post made me feel I should let you know you are not alone.
Thinking about you,
nightangel
Nightangel