did i coerce my pdoc??
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did i coerce my pdoc??
| Thu, 11-25-2004 - 5:05pm |
I'm so upset and frustrated I don't know what to do. I'm getting what seems like opposite messages from my AA sponsor and my therapist, and I've been trying to achieve a happy medium because I think each of them give valuable input, but yesterday I just wanted to scream (luckily I'm at my dad's, so their are some distractions here).

I hope that you are doing all right, and I'm sorry that you don't like the holidays. I don't like the holidays sometimes either, especially when I'm sick like I am right now. I tend to get even more depressed when I'm sick. I don't really know what to say about the medication. I'm currently taking 30 mg of Prozac daily, and it's been working out pretty well for me. I took Zoloft for over a year before that, but Prozac has just worked out a lot better for me. I really hope that you get everything sorted out.
Lots of love and hugs!
I agree with Mary...nothing that you did sounds manipulative or coercive to me. You were honest with your pdoc about your symptoms and your concerns, which sounds like a very healthy and good way of dealing with things.
I can understand the idea of trying to "give it away to a HP," but it seems like that idea could be taken too far. How does that saying go..."grant me the the serenity to accept what I cannot change; the courage to change what I can; and the wisdom to know the difference" (or something like that). In this case, it seems like you were doing your best to change what you could...just accepting it would have been counter-productive since there was something you and your pdoc could do about it.
I'm not sure if that makes any sense at all, sorry! But you have my support...and the holidays are hard for me as well, so I can relate...
Hugs,
Rose
Edit: I found something on a 12-steps website that seems to explain what I was trying to say, in relation to the Serenity Prayer:
"It is not just about learning to let go and learning courage. It is about knowing *when* to fight for change, and *when* to learn to live with what is.
In other words, blind acceptance of everything is not a virtue any more than indiscriminate fighting is. There is a time and place for each."
Edited 11/25/2004 6:52 pm ET ET by rosa444
You didnt coerce anyone Sue!
*hugs
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid
Sue
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid
Dear Sue: I am joining in late, but I agree with all the others and you didn't force your doc to do anything. In today's world, all patients need to take an active role in any type of therapy, mental or physical, and you being a Dr that is doubly true.
I never had an actual sponsor, the home alanon group I started with, they don't do that per se, and I have been getting along ok then when I also go to a different group and they mentioned it once, I didn't jump on it and ask anyone.
Search your heart, and open up to your current sponsor, perhaps it is time to part your ways and chooose a different sponsor, maybe you having mental health issues on top of no longer drinking is more than she can handle. As they say, take what you need and leave the rest. And I loved Rose quoting the serenity prayer, that is so true, and very sweet of Rose to look up that web site and all.
I hope you have a nice visit with your family. Take care, hugs and much love, Josie.
Thanks Josie for your support. I really need it right now, as well as the other wonderful voices of reason on this board (yes, we do have valuable input for each other despite having depression).
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid
Sandra.
Thanks Sandra, and it's not like I was asking to restart somthing that makes me feel high,
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid