Hiding diet from boyfriend?

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Hiding diet from boyfriend?
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Fri, 11-26-2004 - 11:43pm
I really want to go on a diet and lose weight. I guess that I'm not technically overweight, but I still want to be really thin. I think that I would be happier and that I would look a lot better. The only problem is that my boyfriend wouldn't want me to go on a diet. For the most part, I pretend to be confident about my appearance, and he likes that. He doesn't know that I really actually think I'm fat, though. He thinks that I'm all right with the way that I look. I don't want him to figure out that I think I'm fat and want to diet. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can hide my dieting from him?

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 11:42am

I would say that the first step no matter what is to talk to your doctor.

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Registered: 07-01-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 11:50am

Oh sweetie, I can't advocate hiding from anyone you care about.

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Registered: 07-01-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 11:53am
Mary...what a great post!
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Registered: 11-27-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 2:03pm

Along with the great advice from the others, I would add this:

Whatever happened to just eating right and exercising? You don't need a diet to be a healthy size. And its not like you'd have to worry about hiding that from your bf because eating right and exercising is good for anyone no matter what size they are... He could even join in. A diet is only needed for those who are seriously overweight. You don't sound overweight. Hmmm... I don't know if this was really all that helpful or not, I just thought if you're that concerned about your weight, then making sure you eat right is better than dieting. I hope I'm not out of line here...

Sarah

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Sat, 11-27-2004 - 5:37pm

Thanks for being so kind to me and for giving me such great advice. I agree with what you are saying about appreciating a boyfriend who accepts me the way that I am. I don't know what I would do if I had a boyfriend who pushed me to change. I think that would really make me miserable. My boyfriend always says that I shouldn't be so hard on myself, which is sweet of him to say.

I just can't stop thinking about losing weight, though. I'm just angry at myself for not looking the way that I want to look. I could look really good if I would just discipline myself and lose weight. I'm currently 5'8" and my weight fluctuates between 130 and 135 lbs. I'm sorry if I'm not really making sense. I just kind of freak out about this sometimes.

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Sat, 11-27-2004 - 5:39pm
Thanks for the great advice. You are definitely NOT out of line. I really appreciate your kindness and caring. According to the height/weight charts, I'm technically not overweight. I'm 5'8" and my weight fluctuates between 130 and 135 lbs. I just feel overweight, and I guess that I'm angry at myself for not looking the way that I want to look. Does that make sense?
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Registered: 11-15-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 5:42pm
Your advice is great, and I definitely appreciate it. I posted here because it's always so supportive and it's one of my favorite boards. I've checked out the websites that deal with BMI, and while my weight's in the normal range for my height, I still don't feel good about myself. I'm just so frustrated with the way that I look sometimes.
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Registered: 01-27-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 9:49pm

(((((Star))))), PLEASE talk to your doctor about this.

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 11:04pm
Thanks for your kind and caring reply. It is really nice of you to suggest that I keep you posted. It shows that you really care, and I definitely appreciate that. I'm currently taking 30 mg of Prozac daily, and that helps me a lot, but my parents are also insisting that I go to counseling while I'm home from college over Christmas break. They don't know that I want to lose weight, but they are aware of my problems with depression. I do appreciate that they want to help me feel better, because it seemed like for years they acted like I didn't have a problem. Anyway, I'm starting to go off on a tangent, but I just wanted to thank you for your support and kindness!
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Registered: 07-01-2004
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 9:45am

2 more cents from an expert.

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