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Hiding diet from boyfriend?
| Fri, 11-26-2004 - 11:43pm |
I really want to go on a diet and lose weight. I guess that I'm not technically overweight, but I still want to be really thin. I think that I would be happier and that I would look a lot better. The only problem is that my boyfriend wouldn't want me to go on a diet. For the most part, I pretend to be confident about my appearance, and he likes that. He doesn't know that I really actually think I'm fat, though. He thinks that I'm all right with the way that I look. I don't want him to figure out that I think I'm fat and want to diet. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can hide my dieting from him?

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Thanks for your support and great advice. I absolutely love this board. You ladies are always so great about replying and being supportive and helpful. It just makes me feel better to be able to post things here and get replies from other women who really care.
My parents have actually made me an appointment to see a therapist in December when I'm home on Christmas break from college. They don't know that I want to lose weight, but they do know about my problems with depression. They've been surprisingly supportive about it with taking me to doctors and helping me to find an anti-depressant (Prozac) that worked for me. (My mom is actually in town right now filling my prescription for Prozac before I go back to college.) I'm not ready to talk to my parents about my food issues yet, but I'd consider discussing them with a therapist if I were sure he/she wasn't going to tell my parents about it.
I hope that you are having a great day, and thanks again for your kind words and great advice!
I am going to be very blunt and honest with you regarding your weight concerns and dieting and hiding it from someone that you love and who loves you..
I am 29 I am 5'1 I weigh 105 I have an eating disorder I starve myself and if I do eat I purge I take pills and workout like a mad woman and I HATE it with a passion..I had a baby 6 years ago I gained almost 100 pounds when I was pregant I have always had issues with my weight ALWAYS!!!!but when I met the man I thought I was going to marry I was okay got pregnant gave birth and the disorder surfaced again I was at one point 93 pounds a size zero I am a size 2 now I feel fat and ugly and nasty and sad and out of control and tired all the time I can not look at myself with out pointing out all my flaws I weigh myself all the time I was so happy when I heard I lost 3 pounds in a week...
I thought I controlled this disease it actually controls me I want help but I am afraid to give it all up I feel like a junkie who knows they need help but is afraid to give up the drugs....sad huh..
I am looking into going inpatient rather than seeing a secialist for day treatment cause I know that once I leave day treatment I will still not eat I will still take my pills and I will still work out all the time..and I finally broke my silence to my mother but she is the type of person where she doesnt talk about things cause if you talk about them that makes it all real but if you are silent then it doesnt exist.
the thing is you should not hide this from your boyfriend you are heading down a very deadly path I know that I am one to talk but speaking from experiance let my tell you that this is a very lonley place to be trust me I have managed to push away friends and family because I hate being me andI hate the way I look...it isnt fun but it also doesnt stop me..
Please before you get so far into this please seek help cause once you are into this as far as I am it is so hard to get out of it all..
Also this disorder well it screws with yor head it gives you such a warped preception of yourself when you look in the mirror you see fat you dont see what others see when they look at you trust me on this I know also what it is like to look at yourself and see a heavy person but wen the people who know you look at you they see a thin person..
please dont hide this from anyone I am sure that you are perfect the way you are..
please keep us all posted on how you are doing.
Erin
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