Really need help moving forward.....
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| Sat, 11-27-2004 - 8:26pm |
Everytime I post on this site, I seem to type the same thing it seems or something similar. But I really need your advice on how to move on and keep moving forward when you are in a rut and been depressed for quite sometime? I need to move on in life and do things that make me happy, or that I would think would make me happy, but moving on, and making changes is so difficult and I just can't seem to get out of the rut I am in. The thing is I have very poor confidence in myself if I even have any, and knowing that I have been at a dead end job for almost 2 years when I have a college degree just makes me sick. I know I need to move on, and I really am looking for some advice from people who can relate to me or people who have overcome my problem etc.
I would appreciate all the help and advice possible, just some suggestions on what I can do to move forward in life and not just live day to day doing nothing to help myself out. Thank you so much.

It is hard to make a change when you are depressed, but it sounds like it is exactly what you need. One thing that helps me is thinking about changing it in small steps rather than thinking about how bad a situation is. You say your job is a dead-end job, so that is a good place to start. Set aside some time to look at some job postings and see if there is anything out there that would be interesting to you. Make smaller goals that are easier to accomplish--- like "this week I'll apply for one position" or "over the next two weeks I'll update my resume". And don't think you have to do this all on your own...
One GREAT thing I discovered that helped ease the stresses of changing jobs was working with a headhunter. They do a lot of the work... they can help you with your resume, look for the best jobs for you, present only the kinds of jobs you are interested in and set up the interviews. A lot of times they even negotiate your salary. All that stuff can be very nerve wracking, but it is their job and is FREE to the job applicant in most cases.
One of the biggest ways I was able to motivate myself was to picture myself not having to go to that job again... picture myself giving my notice and being excited about starting something new. Change is hard, but don't be intimiated by it. Thinking about what your life can be like instead of focusing on what is bad can give you just enough fuel to move yourself forward and do great things.
Seya
(((((Sarah))))), I can relate, because I'm in a dead-end job I'm trying to get out of, too.