Teenage Son
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Teenage Son
| Mon, 11-29-2004 - 11:32am |
I am depressed because my 18 y.o. son from a previous marriage has dropped out of the 2 colleges I've tried to send him to, moved in with a buddy and his mom, lays in bed till at least 10 every morning, and then goes looking for a job - still depends on me for cash (I can only give him $5 a day), car insurance, health insurance. My husband and dad want me to cut him off completely - he's lost at least 10 lbs since he left a couple of weeks ago - son is 6'2", 175 lbs. I saved since this kid was around 2 for his education - he and his friends he runs around with think college is "stupid". He got a 21 on the ACT test (when I made him retake it), and could have gotten into an honors program at the local university. I can't just cut him off from all my support - I can't do that to my son. I think my husband and dad are being mean about it, and I don't see where it will do the kid any more good than to just drive him further away. Oh yes, and I just put him on our cell phone family plan - so I can keep up with him. He wants to go to work for state government, but those jobs take usually around 3 months to get on - and I'm trying to help him there too - typed his application and resume, etc. I'm just in despair that he's never going to truly be self-reliant, and I hate being at odds with the rest of the family. Any constructive suggestions are welcome. Please don't tell me to draw and quarter him - I've heard enough of that attitude!
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| Mon, 11-29-2004 - 12:21pm |
*hugs* I'm sorry that your son is having trouble getting started. I'm twenty years old, and I wouldn't have gone to college if my parents hadn't made me and helped me so much. You are doing the right thing, in my opinion. Please don't just cut him off. Even though he's having a hard time right now, he'll be able to turn everything around and he'll be grateful for your help. I know that I'm really grateful for everything that my parents have done for me. Eighteen is a hard age. I remember it very well, and it was very difficult to get started at college. I'm sorry that I don't have any enlightening advice or anything, but I just wanted to let you know that you have my support and that I'm here to listen if you want to talk more.
| Mon, 11-29-2004 - 1:06pm |
How sweet of you, and thank you! I badly needed to hear that from someone - I just don't want, too, for my support to stop him from being all he can be (I don't think it will). Do you happen to know if there are any college majors where you don't have to take english composition? He needs something where he could just go to class, and not have that much homework...(or any at all, for that matter)
