update on brother... more

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update on brother... more
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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 12:10pm

Well today the "ish" has hit the fan. Yesterday the doctor had decided that only my step dad and my brothers mother could go see him due to there being too much stimuli. They told us that we could call anytime we would like since we could no longer go back to see him and get his numbers. Ok we accepted this even though they will not let his fiance see him. Whatever is best for tim.

Now the stupid nurse, (Who is new by the way and does not know that we were the ones up there 24/7 over the weekend) will not give my mother Tim's stepmother any information. She says we must go thru his MOTHER. Who does not give correct information and I swear changes things and elaborates to make it sound better to her. Because everytime she has given us information the dr or the nurse will give us the correct info and its way off. We are really upset about this. My step dad and my mother have been married for 15 years. Its not like were new on the scene. WE are also the only siblings he has. I knew when this started this woman would do "ish" like this. She has never accepted us as part of tims family even though he has no other siblings and he has always considered us his sisters not step-sisters.

Right now I feel so violent and mad. If I could just smack his mother I would feel better. But im not going to, but I want to. I really wish she could just accept this isnt about her, its about tim. My step dad called up to the hospital to find out why they will not give information to his wife(my mom). Because he is at work because he has to be and doesnt get information during the day anyother way. The care cordinator said it may take her a little while but she will find out and get that corrected and try to get it so his fiance can go see him.

Well that is all we know right now.
Roxanne

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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 6:15pm

Sorry the red tape is hurting your family. Hopefully the ones in charge can change it so your mom can get the info. Seems like they'd tell any family member news over the phone. I hope this burden is alleviated soon so you can all just focus on your brother. Hospital red tape is the worse thing to deal with when you have a loved one in such dire need. Prayers for you.


Julie

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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 8:29pm

Nothing worse than having to deal with that stuff at a time like this (gosh). I don't feel like that's fair to your mother, that probably makes her feel terrible considering she's been married to your step dad for 15 years. Hopefully everything will get cleared up so you can focus on your brother.

Your all in my thoughts and prayers Roxanne, hang in there and know we are always here for you. (((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))

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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 9:31pm

hey everyone. They started taking my brother off the meds today and his numbers were still good actually better then they expected.

They had the care meeting today and things went the way it was supposed to. They are going to let his fiance up there and they say within a week they will let us sisters in to see him. They told his mom that if she keeps touching him and talking to him that they will not let her into see him anymore at all. Because right now they do not want him stimulated.

Tomorrow they are taking out his breathing tube and putting in a tracheotimy(sp) They also will be putting in a full fledged feeding tube into his stomach instead of one that goes straight to his intestines. So I will be there tomorrow.

Today was a good sign and Im very happy about it.

But on to what i feel. I feel angry! very angry. I m not sure why but i am having a really crappy day. Im so mad that I feel it coursing thru me. Im so agitated and figety today.

But Thanks everyone for all the support.

Roxanne

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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 9:37pm

(((((Roxanne))))), isn't that maddening?

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 2:32am

Continue to keep us posted Roxanne.

And hoping the trach and feeding tube can be removed later on when he is getting better.

Take care of yourself in all of this stress and anxiety etc. Hugs, Josie.

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 7:54am
Sooo Glad to hear things are going so well.

*hugs