Im on the best way to ruin myself - help

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Im on the best way to ruin myself - help
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 10:47am

I posted on here before but I want to come back and ask for advice again.

The last two years have changed me, I don't seem to enjoy life as much as I used to.
I am so tired, I could sleep all day.

I've been in night school for two years now, and ever since I am in night school I haven't had a lot of money. Finding a job is really hard since I can't be very flexible because of school.
Not having much money is really, really, really bad.
I can't go shopping for a nice dress, I can't go out for dinner with my boyfriend,... it's pretty bad.

I don't even bother making myself look nice anymore - two years ago I never left the house without knowing that I looked all right. Now I leave the house without any make-up on, without paying attention to what I wear... it's really awful!

I gained a lot of weight... Every day I tell myself to change and do something better with my life - but I can't bring myself to do it.
I want it - but somehow it feels like my hands are tied.

Please help me, I want to get out of there before it's too late!

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 3:20pm

What you describe sounds like depression.

Christine

CL

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 4:07pm
Hi there. Well you have already acknowledged that you want a change in your life and you have also acknowledged what you would like to be changed. Thats a great start! So I say take baby steps, dont burn yourself out. Commit to something small at a time, like going for a short walk before school, putting on just mascara if it makes u feel better, going on trips to the park with your b/f to play on the swings, etc. Little things can help us. I know what you mean about going out..I have a hard time making myself look nice. It doesnt matter how we look, but at the same time I personally feel better about myself when I look nice. Maybe night school is having such an impact on your life. Do you think you would have changed this much had you not gone to night school? Can you switch to day school? I believe everything will work out, you just have to be persistent. When you cant find the strength within yourself you will always have us to turn to. HUGS