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| Wed, 12-01-2004 - 12:22am |
Well I have to let you guys know we lost my brother tonight.
I am very upset about allot of things right now and dont know how I am going to go on.
We met with the doctors today and they told us today was going to be it. Still his mother fought to not have us sisters allowed in to say goodbye. Why does she have to be so selfish?
I cannot begin to know what she is going thru but I dont understand how she could not want someone who tim loved and loved tim in to say goodbye?
I dont know yet when the services will be because my brother was an organ donor and is having all qualifying organs donatated. His mother is handling with all of the funeral arrangements because my step dad is sick of dealing with her. I hate that she will find a way to leave him out and we will be lucky if we even get to know when it is. I hope he decides to get involved so that she doesnt leave him out of everything.
Thanks for all the support. I really need it right now as I dont want to be here anymore.
Roxanne

Dearest Roxanne: families after divorce can make life way too difficult, but first of all I am so sorry your brother didn't make it, but he would want you to go on, and enjoy life and do all the things he won't be here to do, I know he would want you to do that.
And if his mother doesn't include all of you in the service, do your own later, have some type of service for all of you on your side of the family and heck with her.
Know we are all here for you, take care, love, Josie.
(((((Roxanne))))), I'm so very sorry -- I'm crying as I type this.
(((Roxnanne))) I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I could really do more than just say that. You must be flooded with emotion: anger, saddness, loniless and more anger.
But you are here with us. We wil do our best to support you through this. The best we can.
You will need to be there for your dad the best you can. You are indeed in a frustrating situation, but love him through it. It is all anyone can do.
And when you are at the peak of frustration, remind yourself of what you said in the beginning of the post:" I cannot begin to know what she is going thru" You are going through loss just as she is, and that makes you bonded. You are one wonderful lady to show such compassion for someone who is creating such frustration.
This man was lucky to have you as his sister.
Once again, I am sorry for your loss.
Keep posting.
Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)
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I am so sorry for your loss and the added pain of what Tim's
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Thank you all for your kind words. I spoke to his mother today to get information so that my dad would not have to. She always seems so kind on the phone and then goes and does some mean stuff behind everyones backs. I know that my brother always said he hated her and we always told him "its your mother tim you have to make up with her it cant be that bad" Now we know that she is a vindictive and mean person. I know in my heart my brother knows what she did to try to keep us out of there to say goodbye to him and will probably never forgive her for it.
Right now im just trying to keep my self together for my family. Its really hard when you dont know what to do. I hope tims mom doesnt try to pull anything crazy this time because it already is really hard not to tell her how tim felt and how all us feel. I know now is not the time but she has burned every bridge she has with us.
Just to let you know I found out she let her bar buddies go say goodbye to him but didnt want us sisters to go into the room even after she knew this was the end. I think that is repulsive. These people from the bar hardly knew him and he has been my brother for 15 years. Anyways I will quit rambling and go back to bed now.
Thank you for all your love and support through this hard time. I know because of what depression does to people it really can be hard to pull yourself out of it enough to help someone else. I appreciate everything you have done. You are one of the reasons Im still standing right now.
Roxanne
P.S. should I call my doctor about uping my meds it feels like with all this its not working.
Julie
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Roxanne, so sorry for your loss, we are all here for you sweetie. May God be with you all.
Donna
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All I can do is offer hugs and tell you how sorry I am.