Hoping someone here can help me.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2004
Hoping someone here can help me.....
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 12:34pm

Hello all.
Hoping someone here can help me.....
Where can I find a support message board for SPOUSES of a depressed person?
I have searched the boards for a week to find that support.
All I can find is depression support for the actual depressed person

Help...I am at my wits end dealing with my husband who has been diagnosed chronically depressed.

I have tried my best to be compassionate and understanding for months now. Over and over I am verbally and emotionally abused. Its horrible.
After a 22 year marriage (NO abuse whatso ever) I was divorced then met this wonderful man I THOUGHT I knew......we married after 11 months.And it has now turned into a nightmare!

I know I would just get "Flamed" if I posted on a depression support board, as not being understanding etc....and I feel I would be flamed on abuse boards as being an "enabler"

I am truly lost here. My marriage is almost over and we were just married the end of April.

Debbi

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 1:03pm

((((((Debbi)))))


I don't think anyone here would "flame" you - living with someone who is depressed is very difficult. I'm on this board for my own depression now, but previously lived with someone for 8 years who suffered from chronic depression, later diagnosed as Bipolar Disorder. It's NOT easy and your feelings and frustrations are understandable.


Have you checked out the "Families and Mental Illness" Board? I found it on the list of iVillage

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 6:23pm

Hi Debbi, I too am married to a man who suffers from depression, actually he is bipolar. He was just recently diagonsed, and we have been through so much over the years. I always thought he was bipolar, but couldn't really get him or anyone else to believe me. It took him leaving me, and eventually us going for counselling to get him diagonsed.

I walked on "egg shells" for years, never knowing what mood he would be in. He wasn't abusive, but very critical at times. He is much better now on medication, but there are still days when he seems a little down, or sometimes manic. I really thought medication would somehow make things better all the time, but I guess I was wrong. He will always be bipolar and always need meds.

Hang in there, and please let me know if you would like my e-mail so we can talk more.

Take care,
Lori