Tell me if I am wrong

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Registered: 11-19-2004
Tell me if I am wrong
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 3:21am

HI everyone, I don't really understand why my moods are so up and down. I hate it. I think I made a bad mistake, last week my girlfriend called me, asked if I was still interested in a part time job. Now, if anyone knows me, they know I just don't like to work. I called her up and she told me a job had opened up at her work if I wanted it. It's only 3 days a week, Sat., Sun. and Mon. I really didn't want to but knew that we could use the extra money so I talked it over with my husband. Being the understandable guy he is, he told me it was completely up to me, he would support whatever decision I made. Grrrrr!! I know I should take this job, if not for the extra money but just to get out, get a brake from the kids. I was suppose to call the manager and she wanted me to start this Saturday. I didn't call. Everytime I thought about it, I wanted to cry. I don't like working. I know thats childish but I can't help it. My husband says its ok, financially we are doing ok. I still feel bad. I could still call and see if they still have the opening. I feel like such a failure. I try so hard to enjoy life and something is not letting me. What is it?? I have a good husband and great kids. Whats wrong with ME??

Thanks for listening,
Sandy

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 6:16am

Wow, I'm just the same, although my disability stops me from working mostly...

I think you are VERY lucky to have such a supportive husband, and don't feel bad for not working....enjoy the leisure time!

I'm sure there will come a time when you will crave the social interaction and the pay packet at the end of the week...lol

Good luck to you and your family, enjoy it , and believe me, make the most of your husband....I'd do anything for a supportive guy!!

Take Care,

Merry Christmas too!

Sharon x

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Registered: 11-19-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 4:22pm

Thanks Sharon, I really want to enjoy this time and enjoy my husband and kids. I find it very hard to do that. Don't know why. Though my husband is very supportive, he gets frustrated alot. Sometimes he just wants to leave but says he loves me too much to do that. Problems all on the account of my depression. I do need to learn to enjoy what I have. Alot of people have it worse. Thanks for the advise.

Sandy

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 4:40pm


Don't feel bad!! If your family is okay financially, why take a job that is a weekend job?
YOU ALREADY WORK. Who does the majority of house work and child care? I bet you do!!!

If you ever find a job you WANT, give it a try. However, I doubt you will want to work Saturdays and Sundays.

DON'T FEEL GUILTY. Just be extra nice to that loving husband of yours!!!!

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 7:59pm

Well in my opinion there is nothing wrong with not wanting to work if you dont have to.

*hugs             

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:34am
Hi Sandy,
I am new here. I read your message & can sympathize with you. You are not alone. You sound so much like me. I have suffered from depression my whole life. I am on meds but they don't seem to be helping. I feel just like you in some of the things you said. I too try to enjoy life but something is not letting me do it. I also get stuck on things. Some things I know what is holding me back but some things I don't. I know I need to change but don't know why I can't. I have no self esteem really. I am sorry for how you feel but I too feel like such a failure. It is not a good feeling. I put myself down all the time.
As far as the job, I keep saying that I will look for something part time because we really can use the money, but I don't really do it. I too do not like to work. I like being home, but....Some of the reasons I don't really push to get a job is because I don't think I could handle it. I have aches & pains, bad feet, & a bad head. My memory stinks. I know it would be good for me to get out to be with other people. I am very lonely. We moved to Florida a little over 2 1/2 yrs now & I am having trouble meeting women around my age to get friendly with. I have no one here to talk to. My sister is back in NY. My husband is not there for me. He tries sometimes, but......He is a man. And he does not understand me or my depression. We have been married a long time but still have our problems. I can't trust him. He lies alot.
Hope I am making sense. Just remember, you are not alone. I am sorry you are going through this. If you ever want to talk, I am here for you. Penny