Probably a Stupid Question....

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Probably a Stupid Question....
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 2:41pm
But who gets really depressed about once a month the week before your period? I suffer from this every month, and I get so tired of it. It doesn't help that my 18 y.o. dropped out of college, left home to live with a buddy and his mom, and is having trouble finding a job, my dh (son's stepdad) and my son's grandparents want me to "cut off all support" to my ds - how can I do that when he needs to keep himself up to make it to job interviews??! The main people I should be getting support from are making things even worse for me. My parents "ran away from home" in Kentucky to Florida about 4 years ago, and have hardly been back since. I know I'm 45 and shouldn't need them any more, but it really hurt that way they did it - my mom told me on my way out her door on Christmas Day - oh yes, we're selling our house and moving to Florida - no discussion, nothing. It's like they wanted to hurt me. My dh has a home ebay business that he barely lets me do anything in, so he controls all "that" money. We've had tons of bills for Christmas - I saved all year so there was $1600 in a christmas club account that all came from my paycheck. I know I shouldn't be so petty - he gives me all his paycheck every pay day to pay the bills, but I certainly never get almost $400 to "blow" on buying knives just for fun - he does sell them for a profit, and he gives me money sometimes to pay on our Lowe's bill - so I'm probably just being petty about it. It jsut gets to me sometimes, especially when I'm low on cash - right before pay day. I'm trying to help my son the best I can find a job, but it's hard when I feel in such a "tug of war" between my ds and dh. We have a 3 y.o. daughter between us, and it doesn't help she's not taking to potty training too well either. I guess I just have the holiday/pre-menstrual blues - sorry. It didn't help either that someone on another board lashed me to ribbons over letting my ds move out and "taking sides" with my dh (in other words, I chose DH over DS). My son is 6'2 and 180 lbs - I can't exactly "hog tie" him and make him stay in my home when he doesn't want to!
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Registered: 10-04-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 5:49pm

It is not a stupid question (in fact, I don't think there are any stupid questions!)


PMS or PMDD (premenstrual dysthymic disorder) is a real disease and can be quite debilitating. For me, I get incredibly emotional and have "meltdowns" the week before my period. There is treatment out there - Serafem, which is a version of Prozac being marketed to women with this problems, can be very helpful in some women.


It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now which isn't helping matters. I hope that you will find the kindness and support here as I have. We don't "lash out" at one another.

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 7:56pm

I have said it before and I will say it again LOL


NO amount of Zoloft would help my depression during the week of my period.. I think the hormone flucuation is just too strong that time of the month.


Here is just a little info about PMS that may cheer you up *wink


10 things about PMS

1. Everyone around you has an attitude problem.

2. You're adding chocolate chips to your cheese omelet.

3. The dryer has shrunk every last pair of your jeans.

4. Your husband is suddenly agreeing to everything you say.

5. You're using your cellular phone to dial up every bumper sticker that says, 'How's my driving? Call 1 800 ****"**.'

6. Everyone's head looks like an invitation to batting practice.

7. You're convinced there's a God and he's male.

8. You're counting down the days until menopause.

9. You're sure that everyone is scheming to drive you crazy.

10. The ibuprofen bottle is empty and you bought it yesterday.

*hugs

*hugs             

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 10:39pm

I wanted to send you a post and let you know I understand how you are feeling about your son. My son left home at 18 (he is now 24) and I have had such a hard time with him, he will not work and doesn't have a clue as to how the real world works and makes his life and mine a living hell because of terrible choices he has made.

Do not beat yourself up, your husband is your best friend right now, you have to be in this together, my son has tried many times to split my husband and me apart because we will not give aid to him to live this life he wants to live.

My prayers are with you.

Lynette