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| Thu, 12-09-2004 - 11:46am |
Hi, This is my first time ever talking on a message board. I hope it will give me some help and good advice. Sometime I feel crazy. One minute I'm happy and the next I can get really sad. I have been depressed ever since we moved here to North carolina. I hate it here but we are here for my husband's job. I am also about to have our first child in dec the 28th. This
should be the happiest time of my life and all i do is think about how i can leave here.I really want to live back home in ohio where all our friends are and my family. I miss everyone so much. It's hard to meet new people when you don't work and your 9 months pregnant. I also am sad because I don't feel like i have a life anymore. I keep hearing oh- you'll be so busy once the baby comes your not going to have time to think about anything else . I know this is true, but what happen to having it all. Having a child and being happy and have a social life. I have no-one here to share it with. I have my husband ,but not mom or girlfriends. My anger and depression has been so bad that my husband and i fight all the time about it and now I look at him and hate him sometimes for bringing us here. He said I'm being selfish but what about my happiness? Do I just give up what I want? I hope this all goes away. I am tired of crying all the time and wishing I was not pregnant so that i could leave and have the life i want. It's not the baby's fault. well if there is anyone i could talk to that would be nice. Thanks .
should be the happiest time of my life and all i do is think about how i can leave here.I really want to live back home in ohio where all our friends are and my family. I miss everyone so much. It's hard to meet new people when you don't work and your 9 months pregnant. I also am sad because I don't feel like i have a life anymore. I keep hearing oh- you'll be so busy once the baby comes your not going to have time to think about anything else . I know this is true, but what happen to having it all. Having a child and being happy and have a social life. I have no-one here to share it with. I have my husband ,but not mom or girlfriends. My anger and depression has been so bad that my husband and i fight all the time about it and now I look at him and hate him sometimes for bringing us here. He said I'm being selfish but what about my happiness? Do I just give up what I want? I hope this all goes away. I am tired of crying all the time and wishing I was not pregnant so that i could leave and have the life i want. It's not the baby's fault. well if there is anyone i could talk to that would be nice. Thanks .

(((((((((poundy))))))))) Welcome to the board. Sorry you are having such a hard time. It is difficult to move to a new environment and not have any family around. My closest relatives are 4 hours away, and it's hard sometimes, especially with kids. I'm used to it though. Some of your feelings may be coming from pregnancy hormones, so hopefully those will stabilize after you give birth. You may want to consider talking to a doctor about taking an antidepressant or talking with a counselor after your baby is born, especially if you experience post-partum depression. That on top of being a new mother and all of the life changes that go along with it can be very overwhelming. Will your mom be coming to visit after the baby is born? I'm sure that will help too.
Also, I would recommend that you find some ways to get involved in your community. Having a baby is a wonderful way to do that--there are lots of playgroups you can join and socialize with other moms. You will be extremely busy after the baby is born, but being home alone with your child can be lonely too. So, I would still try to make some contacts with other moms.
Good luck to you and congratulations on the pregnancy! I'm sure others here will have more thoughts for you.
Ting![]()