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Problem with nosey friend
| Fri, 12-10-2004 - 4:31pm |
I'm a college student living in an all girls dorm. I don't have a roommate because I struggle with depression. I do, however, have a girl who lives next door that is constantly coming over to my room to visit. She is a very nice girl, but she really irritates me sometimes. She's constantly coming over to ask to borrow something, to ask if she can have some food (usually junk food that I don't even have), or just to talk. She also has to touch everything whenever she comes over. She stands behind me when I'm working at the computer, which is very annoying. (I know that her roommate has asked her not to do this to her, so apparently I'm not the only one that she does this to.) Is there any polite way that I can discourage this girl from visiting me so often? I don't mind if she comes over occasionally, but she has really worn out her welcome lately. Sometimes I just end up locking my doors, but I feel badly doing that because it seems rather harsh. Does anyone have any advice for me?

It is perfectly OK to tell her when she shows up that you are busy right now and need some time alone/don't have time for visitors/whatever sounds best to you. And you don't owe her a specific reason. It is also OK to ask her not to stand behind you when you are working on your computer. That is extremely rude. Is this hapening in your room? If she is hanging around while you are trying to work
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid