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Still Depressed, New Stuff
| Fri, 12-10-2004 - 10:17pm |
Hi, I don't know how many on here remember me, but I finally got my car fixed after a lot of hassle. I have also been dealing with my cell phone for three weeks, and counting. The good news, however, is that in May I am moving out on my own with a friend. I have some things I have to take care of first and unforunately May is the soonest I can move. I am still very depressed and lonely. I just want one nice guy to come my way but not one ever does.
Angela ~
Hopefully someone will respond.

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(((((Angela))))), you sound a lot like me, cranky car and all.
I won't find a nice man because men hate me. It seems like everyone I know has a nice boyfriend, except me. I just want one. If I could just have one nice guy, I would do everything in my power to make it work. It really irks me when women who have a great guy tend to complain because they leave the toilet seat up. It's like who cares?? If the TOILET SEAT is your biggest complaint, you should consider yourself very lucky. Not all of us are so lucky.
Angela ~
Angela~
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid
Sue
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid
I say that men hate me because not only do nice guys not like me, but the ones I have dated have stalked me, beat me up, and lied about me to my best friend. I already do live the way I want someone to treat me. I am a really nice person, I do everything I can for my family and friends. It's not just my friends who have nice guys, my sister does too. And my mom, even though she is really mean. She calls me names like retard and bitch. She has a really nice, decent, good guy. I want that, but i don't get it because there is something wrong with me, I just can't figure out what in order to change it.
Angela ~
Angela~
((((Angela))))
I hope I didn't offend you, and I certainly didn't mean to imply that you weren't nice. It sounds like you are mistreated by your mother. Was it always this way? And is there any way that you can get some therapy, if you haven't already, to deal with these issues? You certainly don't deserve to be mistreated by anyone, your mother, men, etc. I want you to know that here (on this board, and by me) you have unconditional love and acceptance, and I'm really sorry if I didn't convey that in my last post.
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid
I didn't think you implied anything. I was just trying to show how I am usually treated. My mom throws my stuff around sometimes when she's yelling about the house. I am not sure how that is supposed to motivate me to clean. And yea, she has done this since I was a kid. I am going into therapy soon, I have to get through finals first, and I am moving in May. I know that once I am away from it, I can more effectively deal with it.
Angela ~
Angela~
Angela, HI im kinda new here but I just wanted to tell you that I too longed sooo much for that "special" guy in my life. At one point thats all I thought of. When he finally entered my life everything was great for awhile. The one thing this man did not do for me was take my depression away. Now married for 7yrs. he still is the greatest person to come into my life but I still battle with my depression everyday and it frustrates him even more. What I'm trying to say is, don't focus on what you don't have right now. Focus on what you do have and thats YOU. You are a wonderful person with or without someone. When the time is right, that special someone will come into your life. I know how lonely things can get, trust me I know. Just love what and whos around you now and know great things are yet to come. I still have to, on a daily basis remind myself all the good things I have. My husband who is very supportive of me and my beautiful 3 kids. I am one of those that has all of that and who still cries that I am not happy. But all of that is IN me. Good luck with things and know we are all here for you.
Sandy
No offense, but that is easy for you to say because you have someone great. I don't think you understand the he## I have been through. My first boyfriend stalked me for 13 months after only dating for 8. This went on until I got married to my ex husband, who beat me up. Then I took a break from dating for a while, almost 2 years. It didn't help, I did what you said, I became happy with my life for a while, I enjoyed my friends, my family, etc. Then comes along Mr. Liar. We dated for all of 6 weeks, then after dumping me, he lied about me to my best friend. So, you see, I don't get Mr. Wonderful. It just doesn't happen for me like it does for everyone else. That is why I'm so depressed, that and my mom continues to complain about the house. I wish I could figure out what is wrong with me that even when I am happy with my life I get the major jerks of the world.
Angela ~
Angela~
(((((((((((((((((((((((Angela))))))))))))))))))))
I don't want to come across as harsh or uncaring, because that is NOT the intention. As I said before, I am writing this because I identify with your feelings. And I strongly believe that this is a place of unconditional acceptance and support.
I went back to review your previous thread because as I've been reading this thread before and since my posts, I wanted to understand where you are coming from. Because you sound very frustrated. And angry. And victimized.
A lot of women wrote very thoughtful and well thought out responses,
peace and love,
just_a_big_kid
A lot of women wrote very thoughtful and well thought out responses, and it seems like you have been very resistant to the posts, both those with suggestions and those that are mostly there to show love, acceptance, and support of you.>>>>>>>>
I don't mean to sound resistant, I just want people to understand my situation. I want to get counseling but I have to get it where it is free. And I am going to move, but because of circumstances beyond my control, I can't until May.
anger wasn't even in my vocabulary because it wasn't an "acceptable" feeling to have in my family.>>>>>>>>>
This is exactly it, I am not "allowed" to feel angry. I even go so far as to tell people that I don't get angry very easy.
And my unhealthy relationships with other people and my tendency to draw unhealthy people into my life continued until I could see my own role in the relationships.>>>>>>>>>
Most of my friends are unhealthy, except for a couple, and i am trying to pull away from the rest because I want to have healthy relationships, so I figure a good place to start is with my couple of friends who are healthy, and I know this because of the way they respond to me, and because of looking at their other relationships.
I don't mean to discredit anyone's advice, I just feel very depressed, and hopeless and like nothing will ever change.
Angela ~
Angela~
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