Husband's symptoms
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| Wed, 12-15-2004 - 10:45am |
Hi,
My husband is the child of an alcoholic, and he decided to stop drinking over 3 years ago. He had been diagnosed as obsessive compulsive but he also suffers from anxiety. After several trips to the ER for "heart attacks" I finally found a therapist who told him he was having panic attacks but that these could become real heart attacks. However he refused to counsel him any more because he felt my husband had real anger problems and he feels that these types of men are not good to counsel.
We next went to a psychiatrist who now has him on neurontin, fluvoxamine and ambient to sleep. Several weeks ago he announced to me that he regrets having prevented me froming having activities that do not include him and that he thinks we both should have more of our own interests. ON the face of this this seems like progress because he has always been so clingy.
However now he tells me he is sick of everything in his life and if he could he'd leave it all behind. However when he talks to his kids the only one he even mentions anything to is his oldest who is 28 and just like him. He just told her he wasn't into CHristmas this year. I understand he wants to protect them but I feel like I'm on my own with this.
Now one of my theories is that now that they have successfully treated his ocd he finally can feel his depression. I believe he has always been depressed. I also think he could do well with cognitive therapy. Last night he got very angry with me because I called his psychiatrist to confirm that he had told the doctor that he had no interest in anything. The doctor fed it back to him that I said he'd lied to the doctor. I said, no, that he is on many meds and to me he sounds like he is suffering from depression and that this is something the psychiatrist should be addressing and did he tell the doctor the same thing he has told me? He finally calmed down when I pointed out that he is on three meds.
So.... . I know this is long but I am looking for some feedback from anyone who has dealt with a situation like this. Do I need to keep pushing? I guess I feel like someone who is depressed is unlikely to act and I don't know how you get better if you don't do something. I feel like no adays they give folks pills but don't really get to some of the childhood junk that has caused the depression and low self esteem.
Thanks
T
