Can't Handle Much More

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Can't Handle Much More
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 10:59pm
It has been a very long day. Kids are out of control. Christmas has them bouncing off the walls. I have tomorrow off since my daughter is coming in and I feel very guilty leaving putting a sub thru that.
I was on the phone off and on with my therapist and then my doctor kept trying to catch me. We finally connected about 5.
My daughter and her boyfriend broke up today and I have been on the phone with her 4 or 5 times. It is very frustrating trying to calm someone down when they are many states away. She was the one who did the breaking up, but she's still having a hard time.
My son dumped a girl he had been seeing because she showed up at our house drunk. It was the second time it had happened. My son has nothing against drinking---he does his share---but he knows when to stop and he had told her the first time he wouldn't put up with it.
I feel like I am unraveling. My doctor told me to up one of my meds and I am suppose to call again in the morning. I didn't have an appointment this week---but I do now. I tried to explain that trying to fit one more thing into the week was only going to make things worse.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Debbie
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Registered: 11-04-1999
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 4:11am

Dearest Debbie: Put your mental health FIRST, and cancel something else to make room for the Dr's appointment. It isn't the same example, but I tried last year to go without therapy Christmas week and the week after, WRONG move, and a panic call and luckily my therapist fit me in on Dec 31st, so this year, I am not skipping one week of seeing her at this stressful time of the year.

Take your dr's advice on the med change, and please stay in touch with both of them, we love you Debbie, and we want you to get through this intact, take care, keep in touch, love, Josie.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 10:02am

Debbie,

I agree with Josie take the appointment to see your doctor cancel something this is o much more important than anything else you have planned your health and well being are number one...
Up the meds that he told you to and just hang on..
I think that your son did the right thing by breaking up with this girl who showed up at your house drunk that is a show of no respect at least to me it is my son is only 6 not old enough to date abviously but if he was old enough and the girl he was dating showed up at my house in that state I would not be happy about it at all and I would hope that he would not be happy about it eather...so what your son did was a good thing it showed that he not only has respect for himself but for you also..you did good with him..
As for your daughter I think it is great that she has a mom like you who will listen and try to understand I wish I had that with my mom...so kudos for you debbie..
Now please do something for you and go see your doctor and get better not only do you need to but you deserve to
Erin