Having A Rough Day!!!

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Having A Rough Day!!!
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Tue, 12-21-2004 - 4:59pm

Well, for the second day in a row I am waiting for a sub-contractor to show up. What is it with these guys? They sale themselves, telling you what you want to hear and then when you hire them they do not show up when they say they will!!!!! I feel that my time is just as important as theirs is. You call them up and they get mad at you !! They are the one not doing what they say they will and yet they make you feel that you are the bad guy. I do not understand how I always seem to set myself up for disappointment. Can’t someone understand that I have waited almost six years for this house to be finished and have endured enough? I was hoping to have Christmas in our new home this year and I have excepted the fact that this is not going to happen this year. Am I wrong in wanting to just be finished? I have endured living with my in-laws for five years, been living in a travel trailer for eight months and all I want is to have a normal life. Is it so wrong? All I want is to sleep in my own bed in my own house and wake up in said house and use a real flushing toilet!!!!! Take a bath or a shower in a real tub, my tub which I will have to clean!!! Is it so hard to ask??? I just want to live in my own house!!!!! I am so sick of having to wait on others. Can any one hear me?

All I ever hear is it will be done soon just hold on. I have being holding on for six miserable year’s do I have to wait more. I think that if just one of the subs could spend just one day in my shoes that they would be crying in just a few hours. If it was him he would be getting on someone bottom about getting the work done. Can’t someone understand!!! I just what it to end I want to start living instead of waiting for someone to show up and can they please do what they said they would.

I am sorry I have been crying all morning and I just did not know were to turn for someone to hear me. I tried talking to my mom and all she can say was to let it go and that it will all be over soon. My question is how soon? If people don’t do what they say their going to then I have to wait that much longer. Am I wrong? Have I waited long enough? How long is long enough?

I have tried so hard to hang on. I have tried to do things to keep my mind off the day to day waiting but I am now not interested in anything. Nothing makes me happy any more. I just can not handle it any more!!!!!

RainydaysArgon

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Registered: 10-04-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 5:34pm

I've had a lot of experience with contractors and subcontractors when redoing my house, and you are right. They can be SO difficult to do business with. And what i don't get is that it shouldn't be that way since their salary is ultimately coming from you, but that just seems to be a universal problem in the business.


I suggest to people to "let it go" a lot and I know from my own experience that it is easier said than done. I'm going through some of my own issues right now that I have huge resentments about, and I have heard the same thing, and I know in my heart that it is true. All I can do is the footwork and let go of the outcome and whatever else I have no control over. But it is NOT EASY!


Anyway, no need to apologize, this is the place to vent, ask for support, etc. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but don't give up.

peace and love,


just_a_big_kid


Sue

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 6:45pm

Thanks Sue,

I know I should let go but I have had enough, we are so close to being done that this is only going to add more time in the end and I am so tired of the whole thing. It is beyond my control but it sure seems to get to me. I try not to let it get to me but after all this time another four days seems like eternity right how.

I have never understood how they can treat you that way. You are right we hold the money but they also know that at this time of the year you will have a difficult time finding someone to finish and time is not my friend right now. What I dislike is being told that he is going to work on another job because they are his bread and butter. They are a study customer, they send business his way. What am I chop liver? I was good enough when he first bid the job!!!!! My job my not pay his mortgage but come on, when we hired him he know we what to get in right away. I am angry at the treatment that we have received. To find and hire someone now would take weeks and I know that I could not handle that now.

I am glad that there is a place that we can come and vent and find support because I tell you there is no one near here that I can talk to. Therefore, I appreciate your response.

Warm Regards,

RainydaysArgon