I made it through christmas, did you?

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I made it through christmas, did you?
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Sat, 12-25-2004 - 7:28pm

It's 7 p.m. christmas evening just finished my turkey dinner, (I'm so stuffed). Everything went pretty good although I wasnt able to get myself out anywhere. I was supposed to go visit family but called them Thursday to tell them I just wasnt ready, they were really good about it but I wish I just could have gone. My son was there that doesnt live with me, I wanted so much to see him, my sister was nice enough to stop here on their way home so I could spend a little time with him, I wanted to just burst out crying, but at least I was able to see him that is the most important thing. My family all sent up gifts for me, I wasnt really sure they even thought about me anymore let alone even cared, nice to know they still care about me (makes me feel all fuzzy) :o). So, christmas is gone for another year and I made it, it's funny how something that last for only a day can make you feel so crazy. Hope you all made it through too. I thought of you all today and said a little prayer hoping you all had a wonderful day. (((((HUGS HUGS HUGS TO YOU ALL))))).

Donna

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Sat, 12-25-2004 - 10:52pm

(((((Donna))))), I'm glad you got to see your son.

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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 2:51am

Donna: I am sorry you weren't able to make it to your family's get together, but at least your sister brought your one son by.

I was just so grateful to be back in OUR house, with electric that once we got back here around 9am Christmas morning, my mood just kept getting better. Not even a perimenopause body that is playing nasty tricks on me can get me down.

We have a two hour drive each way to my sister's today, and my Mom will be there, I will have to work hard to keep our relationship open and honest after I did all that hard work writing her the week before and that phone call we had. As my therapist warned me, I have to be diligent not to let it slip back to the "peace at any cost" relationship.

I wish I had an answer to you not wanting to leave your house, alas, I don't. Take care, love, Josie.

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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 9:01am

Ya know, Christmas is an important holiday, but we place SUCH expectations on it (ONE DAY) and usually those expectations are not met. I try not to be a Grinch, but I also have decreased my expectations about holidays, especially Christmas, ever since they started putting up decorations and gifts in the stores right after Halloween. Seems like a long time to build up to a holiday. So, I try to keep it simple. But it is not easy when the media and everyone builds it up so much. I miss the days when the focus was on the more tradional Christmas and the reason it is celebrated.


I'm glad that everyone got through the day intact and sorry about all of the mishaps and lousy feelings. I hope that everyone bounces back and resumes the daily living and quest to feel better and get through their depressions if they still loom (like mine is - but it is lifting some!).


Love you all - I don't know what i would do without this board!

peace and love,


just_a_big_kid


Sue

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 4:38pm
i'm confused- i could have sworn christmas was over- but the movies are still on tv, the music is still going everywhere and the decorations are definitely still up. this is the holiday that never ends!!!!!! ;) hope you are doing well- and that santa came to visit! i'm jewish- but he brought me a present anyways- isn't that sweet of him??? (i got a package downstairs of my building christmas morning that my mom sent, but i would like to think santa brought it)
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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 5:26pm

Yep I made it hehe


Christmas for me was hard this year because of a growing tension between my mother and I. That and the fact that I wanted of course to be with my Son whom I adore but also wished I was with my sweet Lady, who needed to be with her own family. But I realized that very soon I will get to be with her and we can "celebrate" all we want when we are together, even if the calendar doesnt mark it as a holiday.


I think it was Sue that said it and I agree. Sometimes we put too many expectations on the Holidays and how they are "Suppose to be" When in fact they are only a day out of the year.

*hugs             

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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 5:44pm

"It's funny how something that lasts for only a day can make you feel so crazy."

You said it, Girl!

It's amazing how obsessed the whole country gets for over a month about just one day. It's filled with expectations, fear, anger, blame, and a lot of personal rules. I think that the belief that we have to make it magical, or feel magical creates a lot of pressure for most of us. Combine that without all of the family of origin "togetherness" and you have the makings for major stress.

I make an effort to not put expectations on the day, and I still end up feeling less happy that day than on the days before and after. Go figure.

Glad we both survived.

MariaC

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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 11:59pm

I didn't do so well, I tried for my 11 year old and my DH, but my mother (which lives in a nursing home about 5 min. away) gave me and my sister nothing but grief, I brought her home with me Christmas Eve and my sister got her on Christmas Day, and we couldn't move fast enough for her, to food was too cold or too hot or I took too long to get her wheel chair back to her room, we are not good daughters to her. My grown son couldn't come to our home or be at my sisters because he had stolen money from my husband and I twice in the last month and a half, my DH said enough, and told him not to come around, but I went ahead and bought him lots of new clothes for Christmas, my son spent Christmas with his girlfriends family.

I just don't know what more I can do? I pray a lot and think about what good things I am blessed with and pray that the Lord will give me strength to face these tough times that I am in.

Lynette