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Mon, 12-27-2004 - 9:58am

Hi everyone! Hope you all had a good Xmas.

This Xmas I had decided to refuse going to my folks's house, my aunt's, etc. I spoke to my sister and explained what was going on with me and she supported my decision to stay home. She passed by before going to mom n dad's. We had a good talk and she helped me look forward to the new year. My mom did try to make me feel guilty about not showing up but I let it slide over my head. I did not explain squat to her - I'm not that close with her - my dad kinda understood 'cause he passed by with presents for the girls and said we'd get together after the holidays. My in-laws passed by later in the day and that was ok too. Hubby had no problems with staying home and we continue to have deep insightfull conversations about the things we both need to work on, for us as individuals and for the couple. Only Xmas day I felt a bit sad but it passed quickly. Now I feel good and hopefull. I still force myself to look at today and try not to look too far ahead. Overall I'm glad I made it through this Xmas. My girls had a good time and they did say that they did not mind staying home. We baked and played together, it felt good. I'm taking my meds everyday and it seems to be getting better - in my head. Thank God for meds! I've never been one to depend on pills but this kinda med, I welcome 'cause it helps me be myself again. Anyways, just wanted to wish all of you all the love and happiness for the coming year and God bless all of you for your continued support.

Nicole

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: imylife
Mon, 12-27-2004 - 10:13am

Nicole!


Good for you for having the Christmas YOU wanted to have!

*hugs             

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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: imylife
Mon, 12-27-2004 - 1:32pm

Joyeux Noël et bonne année, Nicole ! I get the impression that you're a very bilingual francophone, am I right? It's just some expressions you use. I'm an English and ESL teacher in Montreal, so I notice these things...

It's good to see you back, and I'm glad that you respected your own needs, and that your family did, too. I also had a pretty good Christmas, mainly because I insisted that we go to church rather than spend all of Christmas Eve at my in-law's, despite the pressure from my SIL.

I hope you have a good holiday,
Nicola

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In reply to: imylife
Mon, 12-27-2004 - 3:40pm

Bonne année à toi aussi Nicola!

Yes I am French but have studied and worked in English. Grew up in a very bilingual family. I'm also in Montreal! It's good to hear from you too. Pressure...I know what you mean. Half the time people are to busy year round to come and visit and then they make a big deal because it's the holidays. Anyways, I stuck to my guns and glad I did. Hope you're doing better. Do you have plans for New Year's? Us it will be as usual. Friday night movie night. Kids have always looked forward to Fridays. We rent a couple of DVD's and pig out on chips. Especially since things were tense for a while in the house it feels good to get back those little things that make us happy. Have a great New Year filled with love, happiness and prosperity!

Nicole

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In reply to: imylife
Tue, 12-28-2004 - 10:24pm

We will be going to a friend's house for a big party w/ the kids. My FIL is having a quadruple bypass next Tuesday, so my dh is stressed about that. His parents live in the West Island and surgery is at the Jewish, so he figures he will have to be around quite a bit that week (we live in town). He is supposed to be back at work then, but we'll see what happens. Tonight I went out for dinner w/ dh and we had a good talk. I'm still feeling really down, but less b/c of him. I'm glad to hear that you've been able to talk to your dh, too.

Are you on mat leave or were you a SAHM before? I am a SAHM right now, but only b/c I didn't get a Cegep contract this year or last year, ack! I tried high school, but hated it. I also taught in St-Jean, but it's far to drive every day, esp. in the winter. Anyway, I may have something in January at a different Cegep, in ESL, but I've been in lit for a couple of years and I like it a lot better. Anyway, we'll see what happens.

I would like to wish you a New Year filled with friends, fun and happiness.

Best,
Nicola

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Registered: 05-19-2004
In reply to: imylife
Wed, 12-29-2004 - 10:19am

Hi,

I stopped mat leave last July. I work as a real estate assistant for an agent on Nuns' Island. Been with her for 3 years now. July I started back part-time. Because of everything these past few months though, I've taken a break. I'm getting better and ready to start the new year fresh...with all my marbles! lol The meds I'm on - Effexor - seem to be good for me, only dry mouth as side effect. Plus the therapy for both dh and I in January should realy help to iron out all the triggers that have plagued me and my relationship. For the first time in months I feel hopefull about the new year. I wish for you to be there too :) Have you tried the local CLSC? That's where I'm getting the help I need. I guess I was lucky and found this social worker who gives a darn. Well at least she's there for me while I wait for the therapy to start. And of course posting here really helps as well. I don't feel so alone in dealing and understanding depression, mine and other peoples. Let me know what's up. Take care

Nicole