TO SEYA

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Registered: 04-09-2003
TO SEYA
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Sun, 01-02-2005 - 3:00pm

Seya,

I read your Sunday roll call post. I hear you about how hard it is to find a good doctor. I had a few doctor nightmares over the years. I started asking my female acquaintances if they had a good doctor. One friend said she loved her doctor and gave me the name. That doctor recommended an excellent therapist. That therapist helped me through my horrible heartbreak from the guy I told you about in my reply to your post. After six months in therapy with that therapist I was happier than I had ever been in my entire life. Since then the tools I learned from that therapist have helped me become even happier. And now after I went through a couple of years in grad school I'm helping other people as a counselor myself.

I hope you have a good experience with this doctor. If not, ask acquaintances about their own doctors. This guy is not worth letting your whole life fall apart. I understand that a betrayal of this magnitude devastates everything around you. I had to hold onto the core of my being for dear life. I forced myself to run whenever I felt like eating to numb out my depression. I didn't want his cruel disrespect to cause me to get fat and feel even worse about myself. So I stepped on his face with every step of every run. I got myself a free makeover at The Body Shop and bought some new makeup. I punched pillows and screamed in my car. And I put my therapy appointments on my credit cards because I knew that without therapy I wouldn't survive the pain.

Hold on, Girl. You can get through this. VogueGirl has also recently been through a similar breakup with the guy she thought she was going to marry. Get mad. Focus on his bad points. And realize that any man who could treat you like that is not the man you thought he was. Know that you couldn't do that to anyone, so he is not worthy of you.

We're here for you. You can get through this, even though it feels like you cannot survive this pain. You can. I know because I survived it. And it pushed me into therapy that changed my life for the better.

All My Best,
MariaC

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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: cal70
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 5:56pm

Thanks MariaC. I hope this doctor is good too. I don't know anybody I can ask for references, so I am going with whoever my insurance company covers. I figure I can't have 4 awful doctors in a row. This one HAS to be good. And hopefully she can help me find a good therapist.

Thanks for all your kind words. I was feeling pretty down and it was nice to see someone cares.

Seya