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| Sat, 01-08-2005 - 12:19am |
I'm brand new here and was hoping to gain some insight from people in my situation. Briefly, I have two beautiful boys, which resulted in a ton of residual abdominal/adhesion pain. After 2 years of chronic abdominal pain, and having the drs telling me I was nuts, I switched to a new practice. I was supposed to have a basic surgery; i.e. laparoscopy/laparotomy, which resulted in a major, major surgery. I am having such a difficult time with the fact that I am unable to have any more children. I am consumed with my inadequacy as a woman and it's killing me.
I guess I really need a happy person to tell me everything will be okay. I'm trying to secure an appointment with a therapist to help me through this tough time.
Thanks to whomever can provide advice.
peace,
*trex*

Trex, welcome to the board...I'm sorry you've gone through such a painful experience...I think that your situation could be hard on anyone. I'm glad you're looking into therapy...I know that that has helped me get through some of my own issues.
You talked about feeling like you're inadequate as a woman...I can definitely understand where you're coming from, but maybe a therapist could help you find a new definition of womanhood that includes more than just the ability to bear children. And even by that definition, you are very much a woman and a mother, with two beautiful children who definitely give you something to be proud of! I know things like that can be hard to see when you're feeling down, though. I wish I had more advice, but I did want to welcome you here...feel free to post as much as you like...I think you'll find it a very supportive place.
Hugs,
Rose