Job issue

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2004
Job issue
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Sat, 01-08-2005 - 3:52pm

I read some of the other posts on this board, and two women mentioned wanting to quit their jobs over certain problems.
This is something that I wish to elaborate on.
In the past when I was younger, I quit jobs very easily, and didn't stay at one place for more than a year. This was something that I wanted to change about myself. The problem was that being new, it's very normal to make minor mistakes and for your boss or coworkers to correct you, and I always took the corrections as some major huge failure on my part. I was a perfectionist. Well, I have been at my job now for two and a half years, even though it has been very hard because I have been sexually harassed by a supervisor.
I noticed that whenever you make a comment about any little thing going wrong at work, people will tell you just to quit. I feel like it's not normal to just quit and that at some point we have to develop thick skin and tough things out or we won't have much of a future.
That's just mho.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2004
In reply to: marina4q
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 8:25pm
If someone is sexually harassing you on the job, that isn't just a difficult working condition.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2004
In reply to: marina4q
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 10:19am
Yeah and if he denies it, it becomes a "He said, she said". I don't know if you know about the law, but usually they want things proven. I SHOULD put up with it, because our society teaches that a woman's worth lies in her career and what she does for a living.
I don't know why people always think they have all the answers. Live a day in the real world and all the answers don't seem to do you any justice anymore.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: marina4q
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 10:32am

Well I think that totally depends on the work environment.

*hugs             

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2004
In reply to: marina4q
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 10:37am

" no one takes advantage of you without your permission"

What a subtle way of saying it's all my fault. Until you know exactly what I have done about it, don't you throw those stones at me. I can't believe that you are the cl of this board. Aren't you also the one who pretty much told me that I would not be a good mother because of my depression? What about the women on this board who already have children? Are they bad mothers? Were they bad mothers before they got treatment?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2004
In reply to: marina4q
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:24am

No one takes advantage of you without your consent.

If that's the truth, then are women to be blamed for being raped? What about women in domestic violence situations? Those women are taken advantage of. So they consented to it, therefore we must blame them.

The original quote was "No one makes you feel inferior without your consent". From what I understand, it was said by Mrs. Roosevelt.
If no one makes you feel inferior without your consent, then I suppose everyone on this board, you and I included, chose to have clinical depression. We consented to it. Am I right?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: marina4q
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 12:10pm

I do apologize if you feel that I was "throwing stones" because I was not in anyway.

*hugs             

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2003
In reply to: marina4q
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 12:35pm

I feel sort of like I am jumping in on a conversation here and I may not have any place to, but being who I am, I am going to voice my opinion.


If you are being sexually harassed at work by anyone, including your boss or the owner, you should make a report to Department of Human Services IMMEDIATELY.

Dona

Mommy to CJ {03.21.03}& Chantel {08.10.95}  Step~Mom to Carrington {08.12.92}