So tired of Hurting.

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Registered: 11-30-2004
So tired of Hurting.
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:15am
Hi everyone. I am new to this particular message boards. I have had a lot of heartbreaks and heartaches here in the last few months and number one I am confused on why all of it is happening and also trying to learn how to cope with all of the stress it brings. My husband of 6 years left me nearly 4 months ago. Even though we didn't have the best marriage in the world it still hurt. I tried moving on and started seeing a guy that I had known for 3 months before we actually started dating. He left me a week ago to go back with his x girlfriend. The really bad part about that whole thing is that he left me for her right in front of my face and was trying to say he would be back but I knew better. I just don't understand why he couldn't just be honest with me. I am just having a hard time dealing with all the emotions I am going thru right now. I really don't have but one person I can talk to about all this and she lives in another state. We communicate on the phone occasionally and it does help but she was telling me tonight that she thinks her boyfriend of 7 years is cheating on her. She found a a girls number in his pants pocket a few weeks back and she doesn't know what to do. Sounds like we both are having men trouble huh? lol. Any words of encouragement or wisdom would really be appreciated. I just don't have anyone to give me the support I need right now to deal with everything. I have 2 boys who are my life and everything that is going on with me is affecting them as well. Thanks for listening. Robyn
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 6:56am

Hi Robyn


Welcome to the board!

*hugs             

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 5:26pm


Hi Carnie,

I understand that relationships are hard. I also understand that you want a good romantic relationship. However, you have only been seperated from your husband for four months. I think you should relax and concentrate on YOU for awhile. (plus your boys.) You have gone through a traumatic time so maybe it would help if you sought counseling. If you work on feeling good about yourself and increasing your self esteem, you will attract the kind of man you deserve!

S.