help i need some advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2005
help i need some advice
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 9:41pm

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hi my name is crystal and i am 8 months pregnant and 18 years old and the father (18 years old too) left me when i was 7 months along because of my mood swings he said that he lost all of his feelings for me because of this. we were together for 3 years and engaged to be married for a year and now since he have not been together he does not call me and everytime i talk to him its me calling him he cant even look at me. we agreed to stay friends because he wanted too. and still to this day we are still friends. we do get along when we do talk and see each other. i need to know if it is possible that he is just running scared because it was getting to hard for him as it got closer to my due date. and if it is possible that he will come around and want to be with me after our daughter is born? because before this happened we were very much in love we both did not want anyone else and i still feel the same about him. He says that no matter whut he is going to be there and even if i dont want it he is going to pay child support and willing to take her on ther weekends. trust me i am going to get child support. i know a lot of guys do get really scared during this period of time. could it be him being really scared and he thinks he lost all of his feelings or should i just try to give up on him and not wait around for him? thanx alot.
-crystal-

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 9:19am

(((((Crystal))))), both of you are extremely young.

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 12:09am

Hi Crystal,


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