Disconnected day ?triggers?

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Disconnected day ?triggers?
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Wed, 01-12-2005 - 1:07am

I am not having a particularly good day. I battled to sleep once again, and then my little one woke me up at 5-30am. I also woke up with a headache and "disconnected" feeling. Don't even know what set me off, other than the headache. I'm tired, feel like going back to bed. But I can't. I have the little one to look after (even though I have just stuck her in front of the TV with a Tweenies video on) and I have a dentist's appt a bit later. My dh is coming home later than expected, and now I don't know if I can even go to the dentist because it clashes with the older one's hometime from school, and if he is not home to fetch her, then I can't go to the dentist.

It doesn't help that dh is going to Afghanistan tomorrow for four days, and he's been warned he is going into a "live fire" zone. He's been before, and was given a special forces guard and whatnot and said it was very safe at the UN base, but still. He is a paramedic on the search & rescue helicopter squadron.

So all in all its a day I'd rather be in bed.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 3:26am
((((Mouselet)))) I know exactly what it's like to want to sleep soooo much, but you can't because you have a little one. All I can offer you here is my understanding, hugs and prayers.
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Wed, 01-12-2005 - 6:25am

Thanks for the hug. Appreciated.

Turned out my body must have known what day it was even before I remembered. Today is the first anniversary since the D&C that ended my pregnancy last year. Two days before I had gone for a routine checkup and the gynae did a scan and there was no more heartbeat. I was somewhere around 10-12 wks pregnant.

My day has just stayed mucky. Dh arrived home in time for me to make my dentists appointment where I sat for 2 hrs. I never saw the chap in the end, as dh phoned me frantically to come home. He is on a call shift and had to fly to Saudi Arabia unexpectedly. We had a huge row about it - like it was my fault the signal was bad in waiting rooms and I didn't get his message so made him keep the plane waiting. I told him to get someone to cover his call shift for him just in case of problems like this, but hey, what do I know?

We were supposed to go grocery shopping and order my oldest's birthday cake but now we can't. And of course, he is going to Afghanistan, and now I don't know whether we'll have time before the big day next week. I don't drive and find it extremely difficult to catch a taxi with the two girls, because the little one is a handful, and a terrible wanderer, and trying to get two kids and a pram into a taxi is just a big pain.

I know it will all get sorted, but in the meantime its a bad day.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 6:43am
Man! Do I know where you're coming from! Fortunately, I do drive, but I know what you mean about the hassle. I am a single mom and my son (4 yo) is developmentally delayed...he actually may be autistic. He also has NO attention span and can be a handful. My mom wonders why I haven't been to church in a loooong time! I probably have panic disorder and when he acts up in public it causes me to have a "mini meltdown"...then I go home shaking and in tears. Needless to say it's not something I do too often. Can you get someone to watch the kids while you do shopping??? Sometimes, I take a half day off from work just to be able to shop in peace.
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Wed, 01-12-2005 - 7:36am

I know very few people here in Abu Dhabi, and have yet to find a babysitter. My kids have never been left with anyone other than family, and I have no family here. Its been a problem. Dh and I haven't been out on a date in over a year, and we used to go once a month without fail.

Sorry to hear of your difficulties. My mom teaches crafts to an autistic boy once a week. It takes him a long time to learn the various things (he has done everything from fabric painting to decoupage now) but he is doing well. He refuses point blank to go to anyone else but my mom. He just gets very agitated when his routine is changed, and needs to eat on a regular basis.