I'm tired of getting nowhere (triggers)

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Registered: 01-27-2004
I'm tired of getting nowhere (triggers)
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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 9:05am
Between the insurance and now the job, I've been handed a double whammy this week.

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Thu, 01-13-2005 - 10:05am

I have had those feelings, too.

I'm 37, have a college degree, nearly 20 years experience in the workforce, and I can't seem to find a better job than the one I have. I've tried. There's no place for me to advance here, and I've looked elsewhere. For a year I applied for lots of other jobs - no takers. So I said, well, I'll go to graduate school, maybe in a couple of years I'll have more leverage in the market.

The funny thing is this. I've applied for several jobs at the university I graduated from. I've never even had an interview. Yet this institution has an extensive PR campaign saying that "employers in the community look for applicants who have attended our school." Apparently they don't. I would have thought they might give preference to graduates, but no. They give preference to people who already work there! But how do you get to work there in the first place? A former coworker of mine got hired there with little experience and no degree. I don't get it.

I've been married 14 years. Mostly just fine. But I like to be alone, and it's nearly impossible. My husband's hobbies don't take him out of the house, so if I want a day to myself, I pretty much have to take vacation time (which I'm doing tomorrow - yippee!). Our house is small enough that I don't have a room of my own. But I am thinking about getting rid of some of the JUNK in the house, and finding a little corner to put up a screen, so I can have a meditation space.

And there's other projects I've been working on, but seem to keep having setbacks. Mister and I are musicians, and we've been trying to independently release a CD. Everytime we have enough money, one of the cars breaks down. I promise you, this has happened EVERY TIME over the last year and a half. Get ready to send it to the factory, and WHAM. Car goes in the shop, there's another $500 down the toilet. Sure, at least we had the money, but what about my CD?!!?!

Anyhow, you aren't alone. I send you hugs and healing thoughts.

Svetlana

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Thu, 01-13-2005 - 4:43pm

((((((((((HUGS TO YOU MARY))))))))))

I hope everything gets better for you. Don't have much advice to give these days and I'm on a landslide myself. Just know you are in my thoughts and I care, I'll say a little prayer for you tonite ((HUGS))

donna

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Registered: 07-01-2004
Thu, 01-13-2005 - 6:00pm

(((Mary)))) I would like to have a magic wand and make all our problems disappear. But I don't. My only recommendation is that you get your resume together. Be proactive, and if you prepare for the worst, maybe it won't happen. I do that, I try and prepare and it keeps the bad stuff at bay.

I am not doing too well today. Sorry I don't have more to say.

We are here for you.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)

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