Hello does anyone remember me?

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Hello does anyone remember me?
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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 5:44pm

Hi there. Well I havent been on this site in ages. I hope someone recognizes me! I need help, the help I need I think is just a listening ear and support. I wrote this in another board as part of that post, so Ill paste it here:

The last 5 months have been hell for me at my apt. They started major renovations at the house I live at without giving me any notice. I live in a separate apartment at the back of a house. Since then, among other things, I have dealt with the loss of my hot & cold water, the loss of my hydro, the loss of my phone, loss of my internet, excessive noise, and rude treatment by my landlord. I am currently extremely stressed out as you can guess as the situation has gotten worse and not better. My grades are suffering a lot too, and I cant even concentrate anymore

That is a very brief summary of an extremely stressful time Ive been having. I am worried about school. Im always tired, always grumpy. I want to cry. It probably sounds silly, but its like..my home has been invaded. They came into my apt without notice and did all kinds of crap to it (built closets without telling me and made a huge mess of my stuff). I have headaches, colds coming and going. Depressed, blah. Its like, imagine waking up at 7 in the morning to the sound of hammers, drills, loud talking, etc. Almost all hours of the day..knocking on your door waaay too much..Not being able to relax in your own home :( Sundays are my only day off work & school, & still there is so much crap going on there. One Sunday my landlord was hammering so hard that my plugs popped right out of the outlets on that wall, and cards fell off the window sill. It has been a mental & physical challenge for me, and I lost my optimism. Ive been on a waiting list for on campus housing for a month now...goodness please let me get a new home. This has brought me down so much. Im going to fail in school *sob*

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-01-2004
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 6:00pm

((((idreamy))) Of course, we remember you. It is good to see you!! Upheaval of any kind is majorly stressful. It would bring anyone down. I too hate that feeling of having my home invaded. You have very right to feel exactly what you are feeling.

A few things to think about. Just for kicks, read through your lease and find out if they are violating any part of it. You may not get sleep but you may be entitled to some return of your rent. Who knows. Second, have you tried to talk to them about the impact on your life. Stress, bad grades. Sometimes people don't realize things until you spell them out.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)

Co-CL Depression Support Board

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 6:12pm

Thanks Lisa. Well since it was a very brief summary of the events leading up to now..I suppose you only have part of the story. So Ill add that I have talked to him time and time again to politely request things to get done/fixed as far as my stinking hydro, water, etc! Finally a few nights ago I snapped and Im not being nice anymore. Ive had a couple of angry (yet civil) conversations with him. He and his family (who live next door) know EXACTLY how I feel and think I should not bother them about it. The ONLY thing on my side is that my parents are also landlords & know all the ropes. I know he has been doing a lot of illegal stuff (regarding landlord/tenant rights & responsibilities) & when I move out I will probably take some legal action. Not to mention that this guy is a psychologist, a landlord for other properties, AND in politics!! He KNOWS what he is doing. Im so frustrated. This has affected my whole life..sorry Im getting carried away again.

Anyways thanks so much Lisa, I really appreciate your support. Its good to see you again :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2005
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 4:27pm
Gee I hoped I would get more than one response..especially since I see familiar names here. I feel kind of invisible, I guess all that writing did me some good anyway. Got it off my chest for the time being. Its been nice knowing you guys, but the support here is not great (sorry). I know there are so many ppl who need help, but when I was here more often I tried to respond to as many as I could. Ok now Im talking to myself lol...well bye and I wish you all the best in life.
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Registered: 08-11-2004
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 7:25pm

(((((HUGS TO YOU)))))

Glad to see you post, I was wandering what happened to you ((and of course we remember you)), even if you don't post you're still thought of :o). I hope the noise stops for you soon, I can just imagine how frustrating this must be for you on top of everything else. I can relate to you about the landlord thing, my landlord is a hard person to reason with too.

Know we're always here for you to lean on, and we all care about you. (((((HUGS))))).

Donna :o)

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 7:17am

Hi Dreamy!


Course I remember you! Welcome back!


I cant remember exactly what it is called but there is a group out there called Tenants Association or something like that, that can help you when you have an unreasonable landlord.

*hugs             

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2005
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 11:34am
Thanks a lot guys. I really thought that I was invisible here. I appreciate your support. It makes my day that there are people thinking of me. Im thinking of you guys too, take care ((HUGS))
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 2:50pm

Hi, just wanted to let you know that I definitely remember you too and am glad to see you back! Just haven't been doing too well lately, so I haven't been responding to posts much. Please stick around if you'd like...it would be good to have you here!

Hugs,

Rose