my man abandoned me

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Registered: 03-08-2004
my man abandoned me
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Sun, 01-23-2005 - 5:50am

hey,
ive posted here so many times and i told you guys the situation at home has been bad. well muslims celebrate eid it's kinda like christmas anyways, two days ago on eid eve, my brother saw a bank statement with my fiance's details on it, being a pakistani girl we're not allowed boyfriends. so my bro flipped and he was the only one really talkin to me. so he got it out of me tht i was seein him and he yelled and was like, im gna kill this guy etc etc. and i cried and cried and begged him not to.. so my eid was real bad.

i txt my ex to let him know whats happened and he didnt respond to me at all, i txt again askin if he recieved my txts, he called sayin he's real busy and he'll call again.. so i waited and waited all tearful and hoping that my man who i stook up for and was inlove with for four yrs will call me and jst see if i was ok but he didnt...

in the morning he txts me, hey, did he say anyting else? i flipped and i got so angry, i said he said what he had to anyways why do u care? he said he was busy and i shudnt take it out on him. i asked busy doin what, he said he had family over etc etc. now i dont know bout anyone else but if ur friend or man/woman was in trouble wouldnt u take 5mins jst to check? so it resulted on him sayin he's gna leave me..which he has.

all i had was him now he's gone. i was cryin all nite and i have an exam on monday morning, my head aches and i cant be bothered eating. although i knw i should. i look at my fone in the hope he;ll call..i should stop hoping.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 9:16am

Oh Sami


Im soo very sorry.

*hugs             

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 1:37pm
i wish i could understand better how hard it is for you not being allowed to have a bf. the only way i can relate is that i wasn't allowed one officially until i was 16 yrs old, and i had a midnight curfew but wasn't allowed out on school nights . ;)
so how does that work, if you don't mind me asking? how do you find someone to love and marry and have kids with someday, if you can't date? sorry for my curiousity!
the hardest thing i found in school was that personal problems really affected my ability to handle homework, tests, and class attendance. whenever DH (who was then my boyfriend) and i had it out, or i couldn't get him on the phone for a long time, it really bothered me. i would sit and worry myself nonstop about where he was, what he was doing, if he had just decided i wasn't worth the effort, etc. it drove me crazy, so i guess i can understand why you are having a really bad time of it! we *took a break* from each other when i was away at school and it was so hard to focus on anything but him.
maybe there is someone you can study with for your test, a friend? they might be able to help you stay focused on the material for a while so you aren't completely unprepared.
(((HUGS)))
~leslie
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 2:06pm

hi,

well havin a boyfriend isnt right as it leads to pre marital sex etc. u can choose ur husband get to know him through friends, kinda like the old victorian times etc but thats how it is in pakistani culture. u can find a man but has to be through others. and im tryin to do some revision then have a break then revise, have a break and so forth.