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| Tue, 01-25-2005 - 6:20pm |
I started a new job in the beginning of January. I seem to have a problem with the woman training me. She told me I ask stupid questions. Today when I questioned her on something she said she told me I was aggressive. I feel really uncomfortable. I don't want to ask anything now. And its like this has set off my emotions. I want to cry, I feel depressed and lonely. Where as yesterday I was okay. I haven't had a major depressive episode in a couple of years. I thought I was doing great and now today I'm completely opposite. I was actually thinking of trying to wean myself off my anti-depressant and now I feel like I shouldn't. I'm really upset that it seems like I'm allowing myself to be depressed by this other person's actions toward me. I don't know. I just feel really depressed and sad and I wanted to share. Thanks.
Jenn

(((((Jenn))))), when you're making a major adjustment, such as to a new job, it probably isn't a good time to wean off of your meds.
Your supervisor apparently is an idiot who has no business being a supervisor. Unfortunately, it happens. I have people like that where I work too.
The thing to remember is that people act and react for their own reasons, which have nothing to do with you. If she's rude and condescending to you, it's because she has a problem with herself - not with you. But of course, we depressive-type people nearly always want to take things personally, because that's how we tend to react. There again, though, that reaction is because of our own personal reasons.
Take a deep breath and distance your emotions from the situation. Do the best job you can do and don't worry about anyone else. And you might even say something like, "I'm asking questions so I can be clear about things and do a good job."
Hang in there. :-)