Work issues

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Work issues
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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 9:48am

I have a relatively easy job as an administrative assistant at a university and get paid very well. The problem is is that I have two co-workers that talk behind my back about me. They also do things together and don't include me and sometimes they don't talk to me altogether. How can I keep this from getting to me and losing a really good job. I know that everyone has workplace problems. I'd like to know how to cope with it and how to handle it. Please help!

Thanks

-J

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Registered: 01-04-2005
In reply to: jaded_jewel
Thu, 01-27-2005 - 10:02am

I know this is easier said than done, but don't let them bother you. If they're ugly to you, it's because they have a problem with themselves. Go on about your daily business and don't let them poison your space. Try to keep love in your heart at all times - that's probably the hardest one for me! It does work, though.

Have you read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz? I highly recommend it. It's a short little book, but full of great insight.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: jaded_jewel
Thu, 01-27-2005 - 2:45pm

Hi jaded


Sometimes its a matter of just opening yourself up to them more.

*hugs             

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Registered: 07-16-2003
In reply to: jaded_jewel
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 5:26pm

Jaded, I'm going through exactly the same thing. The gals around here are total two-facers. Real nice to my face but backstab me in a minute. And very moody. One minute they're nicey-nice and the next minute they aren't speaking. I can't stand any of them. Such miserable phoneys.

I have tried sooo hard to overlook, be kind, stay nonreactive, be friendly etc. but it's sooo hard sometimes because they are so mean. I go to lunch alone every day, but even if they invited me I have no desire to go. I'd rather have a root canal. :/

Hang in there Girl.