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| Fri, 01-28-2005 - 11:44am |
Hi everyone I am new to this message board. I am feeling depressed and thought this would be a good place to let it out. I am a SAHM of a teenager and a wife to a Military man. Lately I feel like I am not needed anymore. My teenager is moving on and becoming independent and my husband is always gone with his job. Most of the time I feel like furniture. They come and sit for awhile but most of the time are gone. Now don't get me wrong I love that my teenager is becoming her own person and I am so proud of her. She will go very far in this world. I am also so very proud of my DH because he is serving his country and he is an awesome husband.
I got married at a very young age and have been a sahm for all of it. I know nothing else. I have been told I keep a clean house but I feel thats only because noone is here to mess it up. I am always asked why I don't go to college but frankly I hate books, I hate school and I hate to study. I barely passed high school(D's). My math skills absolutely suck. I am scared of just about everything. I hate to drive and I am afraid to fail.
I guess I just feel alone. There are not many people that I have talked to in my position. They can't give me advice because they have never been there. I don't have any friends to speak of either because they want to mother me(because I am young) or just don't understand me.
My husband is my best friend but even he has to be overloaded at times. I love him so much. He is my rock. Without him I don't know where I'd end up.
Well anyway, I just came here to vent so my husband didn't get an ear full on the phone. Thanks for listening.
I got married at a very young age and have been a sahm for all of it. I know nothing else. I have been told I keep a clean house but I feel thats only because noone is here to mess it up. I am always asked why I don't go to college but frankly I hate books, I hate school and I hate to study. I barely passed high school(D's). My math skills absolutely suck. I am scared of just about everything. I hate to drive and I am afraid to fail.
I guess I just feel alone. There are not many people that I have talked to in my position. They can't give me advice because they have never been there. I don't have any friends to speak of either because they want to mother me(because I am young) or just don't understand me.
My husband is my best friend but even he has to be overloaded at times. I love him so much. He is my rock. Without him I don't know where I'd end up.
Well anyway, I just came here to vent so my husband didn't get an ear full on the phone. Thanks for listening.

Hi there, I think it's great that you have a wonderful relationship with your husband, and yes, it's hard when the kids grow up. Mine are still small and at this point I would give a lot for a clean house and some alone time..lol. I also work full time which makes it more difficult.
What I would suggest is that you take some classes. Eventhough you didn't enjoy school, you might be surprised. There are so many classes out there that have nothing to do math. You can start with something fun like "art" or "child development" or "sketching". It would be a nice change and get you out of the house and expose you to some new people. Or think about volunteering somewhere, like the hospital or animal shelter. There are always in need of people.
Good luck...Ilka
Hi and Welcome to the board!
Being a Mom to a now teenager, I can understand your feelings of when they suddenly dont 'need' you anymore.
*hugs
I have tried some hobbies and passed out my finished projects to my old friends. After time though it got to be too expensive to create my projects. So I gave it up. I also joined a gym last year in hopes of getting into shape and making new friends. I did lose a few inches in that one year but I failed at the friend part. I didn't have much in common with the gals at the gym.
I haven't tried volunteering but to tell you the truth I don't know where to start. I get panic attacks just going into a hospital so I think that line of volunteering is out LOL Not sure whats out there but its an idea.
Thanks so much for listening to my story. I guess I just wanted to know that there is someone out there that would listen.
Your welcome hun,
*hugs
I was just swinging by and saw that you were not sure where to volunteer. How about your local goodwill store?
Or, work with disabled kids/adults. My son is disabled, and his early intervention centre is always looking for helpers that will do therapy play with the kids - or keep the siblings entertained while mom, therapist and disabled child work together.
You know, being with people who really have it tough can often give one a good dose of perspective. And it's perspective that helps me keep my head above water. Well, that and Cipramil ;-)