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| Sun, 01-30-2005 - 5:45pm |
Hi, I have had a hard coupple of years, my dad got cancer right after I graduated highschool. and two months ago he passed away. My parents were devorced and I only saw him once a month before he became ill. I've been doing fine so far with it but now it's starting to hit me, and I'm haveing dreams about him. I am also trying to continue going to school but I can't concentrate and everything seems to go wrong. I have also been seeing this guy for 2 years and it's gone nowhere I actually haven't seen him in a year and a half, but we talk on the phone all the time. I've noticed that he keeps getting mad at me and ask "who I've turened into" alot. I cry alot and I have no energy. I'm tired of feeling like this.I got on here today because I actually thought about killing myself, the good news is it scaired me. I am living in a new town and know no one. I'm just looking for some advice. anything..
Edited 1/30/2005 5:51 pm ET ET by cristlegirl
Edited 1/30/2005 5:51 pm ET ET by cristlegirl

(((((Cristlegirl))))), I'm very sorry for your loss.
I lost my father to cancer 11 years ago, but not at such a tender age as you are now.
Dreams about him are normal, dreams are messages we are sending to ourselves about what we are going through, think about what you are dreaming and what it means to you. Time is the only thing that takes the edge off of grief, you will always miss him, I was a mess after my dad died, I cried, could hardly get up in the morning(and I was a new mother)I had to get my act together, the one thing that my DH told me helped me more than anything, he said to me "Your dad would have a fit if he could see you now, you know he would not want you to stay so upset, he loved you and would want to to go on with your life" what he said helped me so much.
It is not easy, but I bet your dad would feel the same way.
God Bless
Lynette