It's my baby's birthday

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It's my baby's birthday
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 8:09am
My red-haired Margaret would be 23 today.

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 8:35am
i won't tell you i can understand how it feels i have been lucky with my kids. dispite the fact that their babyhoods were a complicated dance between life and death. they both survived with seemingly no long term effects. i do feel the unfathomable love of a mother though. i am sure that had maggie not made it i would wish everyday i could see her grow up. i am sure that considering it is your daugter's birthday, this would be even more of a challanging time. hang in there. i beleive all things happen for a reason. i do not know if you believe in heaven, but i am sure your daugter is much better there. it is terrible that as a result you must live without her. try to remember that god dose not give us things we can't handle. i am sure you will make it through this day and all the birthdays to come, but i do send my prayers and love. god bless...Becky

 


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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 8:38am

((((Mary))) I saw your roll call post. I am sorry that your ex forgets this sweet life that you cherish. I had a mis-carriage with my cranky ex and he never really grieved her. I always knew that I had to love her enough for two people. You and I both have enough love to give to our lost sweet ones. You have a tremendous capacity to love, and she knows it. She can feel it even now.

Do you have any sweet relatives in heaven? If you believe in heaven, picture one of them holding her and singing her "happy birthday." Those people are taking care of her. Know that all sweet innocent souls are being cherished and taken care of. No matter what religion or belief system you have...she can feel your goodness and love.

Sending lots and lots of hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 8:58am
(((((Lisa))))), my mother is in Heaven.

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 11:16am
I think the people we love never really go away as long as they live in our hearts. My dad died a little over four years ago, and since then there have been a few odd little things happen here and there, to make me think he's still looking out for me. I'm sure Margaret is looking out for you, too. :-)
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 4:11pm

Mary,

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 5:35pm

Mary, I agree with Trac and the others who have posted to you. I don't know what it's like to lose a child like that, but I know it is a loss that can stay with you all your life. Your little girl was and is still a part of you, and there is nothing wrong with thinking about her or grieving her loss. I'm sorry to hear that others don't understand that...please keep posting here if you need support. I agree that thinking of your little girl in heaven having a birthday party is a great image!

Many hugs,

Rose

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 9:56pm
(((Mary))) Hugs to you. I cannot even imagine what you are feeling. Happy 23rd to your Margaret. I am sure she would have grown up to be a beautiful young woman and I know you would have been very proud of her. Debbie