What should I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2005
What should I do?
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 12:39pm
I really need answers. I'm not sure where to begin. I think that I might have depression, but I don't know what that involves. I went through a long period of this from when I was 14 until I was about 17. I'm now 19 and I feel as if I'm going through the same thing. I have been pretty depressed for about 2 months now. One thing that continues to come up for me is that when I was a child, my brother touched me in a sexual way. I'm not sure if this is considered molestation and I think this is one thing that is bothering me. For a long time, I had forgotten all about it until I went through the first long period where I was depressed. I feel so guilty and sick. There are times when I just want to tell someone, but I am afraid that something will happen to my brother. It is in the past and maybe I should just forget about it. I don't think that I should screw up his life just for something stupid that happened a long time ago. I still can't help to wonder when I hear something about child molestation, if I am actually a victim too. What do you think?
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Registered: 01-27-2004
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 3:11pm

(((((Penguin))))), you absolutely are a molestation victim, and you need treatment.

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Registered: 07-01-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 8:35am

(((Sweetie))) Welcome to the board! You are soooo ok to be here. Be here as much as you want. I am looking into finding resources for you to help you deal with this. You are indeed a victim, and you have every right to feel the way you feel.

A few suggestions: Take our depression quiz at the top. Find a good counselor or therapist and post post post....to us and to the other boards that may help you heal.

First take that mind set of guilt away!!!!!!!! YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!! You are a victim. I understand that a person can be a relative, but that does not give them the right to do what he did to you. It is wrong, and you did nothing to make it happen. It did, you are the victim. He also needs counseling. He should have never touched you, but he needs help too.

You are here now. You are seeking to heal and that is wonderful and brave. Good for you!!! I hope you are proud of yourself to take the steps to post to us. That is a great thing. I have found one other board here:

Sexual abuse healing:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhsexabuse

It may help. I am not sending you away from us. But depression is multi-faceted and if we attack it from all the angles that we need to, we can conquer it more effectively.

Wow, sounding very Xena-like....sorry.

Welcome to our board. I worry that people here may shy away from your post because it may trigger them, so be patient with us. We are a caring bunch, but sometimes we have to summons up some strength before tackling sensitive subjects.

You are not alone. I hope that unto itself helps!!!!

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)

Co-CL Depression Support Board

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2003
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 8:39am

Hi there,


You are definately a victim hun and you dont have to feel alone or live with guilt for the rest of you life. There are many people out there to help.

*hugs