Divulging my most personal secret :(
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 10:25pm |
I posted this in the depression group because I suspect most people will say depression is my problem.
First off, I have NEVER shared this with anyone and this is really hard, but I realize I have to do something about my problem. I can assure you I'm not a troll, I've just always been to embarrassed to talk about this.
I don't take care of myself or my surroundings like a normal person does. I only bath/shower every few weeks. My dental hygiene is poor. I don't keep my house clean.
My concern now is I'm watching my daughter grow up just like me and I want to change it for her before it's too late. My mother never pushed the bath/dental/clean house issue with me, so I've never known any better.
I don't consider myself depressed. I've just been lazy for literally as long as I can remember.
I'm really hoping to get some feedback from people on their ideas of how (at age 40)I can find a desire to keep my body and home clean.
There was a time when I first married that I found it in myself to bath and keep a halfway decent home.....but it didn't last long.
Thanks for listening........

Hi and Welcome!
Im glad you posted and you are more then welcome to join us here.
*hugs
i have always been lazy to. i have also always been depressed, so it is hard to seperate the 2. i have bad weeks like this week where i manage to take a bath like once, i have been working really hard on the house issue lately, but it has been really hard. seeing as i haven't thouht of an answer for myself, i don't have one for you, but i hope it helps to know you are not alone. welcome, and god bless
Becky
Sandra.
I have a theory that everyone with depression struggles with the messy house problem :) I have found that breaking everything into small projects makes it easier. (like just do one load of laundry today and vacuum tomorrow etc.) Also, I get rid of junk mail immediately!!!!
I don't know if you have someone that can help but my hubby does housework which helps alot. I have been resisting having a maid because I refuse to be a "princess". (my husband thinks we should do it and god knows my well off sister has had one for years.) This could be one solution but if a maid is not a financial possibility, consider having a helpmate. (ie you and your neighbor can help each other clean both of your houses!!!)
Good luck!