how to deal with overwhelming thoughts?

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Registered: 08-03-2003
how to deal with overwhelming thoughts?
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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 11:03am
I am currently on Effexor XR for depression. My life is a mess. Neither hubby or myself are working but trying to get jobs. Our home is in forcloser so we will have to move. I have large bills and no money. I get very limited help from the state. My problem is for the last 2 weeks I just feel like I can't take anymore and very overwhelmed. I am talking with a tharapist. It just seems things are getting worse. I know some day this will all work it self out. I am also a recovering addict. I struggle with a viccodin addiction. My husband lost his job in June 2004. We have been dealing with this for a long time. I just don't know how much more I can take. There have been days where it feels like I don't want to talk to anyone, I am mad at our situation, I am overwhelmed and feel kind of numb. I know I need to do something. I have no joy. Can anyone help me? I know I need to look at posative things but it is so hard. How do you deal ?
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Registered: 07-08-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 12:11pm

Hello there! Another recovering addict here. I'm so sorry to hear about all that you've been thru, and I want to say "no wonder" you're unmotivated right now. But I know that doesn't help.

Just curious, do you go to alot of NA or AA meetings? They've been a life saver for me, especially when depression starts to get a hold like it was last week. Personally, I prefer NA even though my drug of choice was alcohol. I get a tremendous lift in my spirits from spending an hour and a half with other recovering addicts talking about how we all cope and make it thru the day.

One other thought for you. I'm a bankruptcy attorney, and I just wondered whether you've spoken to an attorney about Chapter 13, which would enable you to save your house when you and your H are both working again. It sounds like it might be a longshot in your situation, but then again, I don't have many of the details. Just a thought, you might want to contact an attorney in your area that will do a free consultation with you if you haven't explored this option yet.

I don't know what else to say except hang in there. Remember that, as our second step says, the power that got you into recovery in the first place is still with you. Pray on it, meditate and try to draw some strength from that. Big, huge hugs to you. Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Registered: 08-03-2003
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 10:39am
Thank you for your reply. We had to file chapter 7 because we don't have jobs. We could have kept the house except we were late on our payments. I do go to support groups sometimes maybe I need to go more. Thank you
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 11:23am

I am so sorry for what you are going through, it takes energy to be strong and that's why you feel like you are numb. I remember when my oldest son was small my husband lost his job and couldn't find a good one for years and I was only working part-time, it was so very tough but it did work out.

I wish I had a magic wand.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 8:24pm

Hi There,

How I deal with overwhelming thoughts or thought thgat are going through my head. It's almost like a snowball effect. Once one thought comes.... it just gets worse and worse or it just keeps replaying in your head. When I had those thoughts, I would litterally tell myself NO, I AM NOT GOING TO DO THIS TO ME. I would put on some relaxing music to try and take my mind off my thoughts. I know it sounds stupid, but it worked for me. I also used to keep a journal which is a HUGE help. I would write the thought, time and day I had these thoughts. I would then show it to my Therapist who would help me sort out the thoughts. Is there a certain time of day that you have these thoughts the most? Maybe thats when you can maybe take up a little hobbie or volunteer. I was out of work for quite sometime and had no income. I would call my family and ask for money..... it's a hard life. I live in Canada so it's a bit different from the US about government funding. I'll do some research for you to see if I can come up with a few options for funding :) I am here for you :)

Jeanette

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Registered: 08-03-2003
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 10:40am
Thank you for your support. I know I have to take things day to day. It is hard because I don't know where we are going to live and I don't know when they are going to turn off the lights and gas. I do know I can not dwell on these things because first off all it won't do any good and I can only do so much. Thank you all for your replies.
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