Am I overreacting? (trigs?)

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Am I overreacting? (trigs?)
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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 2:52pm

(This is long...)

Hi ladies. I would appreciate it if you could offer any input into my situation.

I have been a member of a certain group at school which is a student division of a professional association...not a social thing. I'm one of two members in charge of relaying information about the group and its activities to members of the student population (mass emails, posters, etc). I've been doing this since September, doing everything that was asked of me.

There was never a problem until a few days ago. We started this fundraising contest and I had volunteered to make a poster. Also, as part of my responsibilities, I had to make 150 copies of a ballot and put it in everyone's (ie: over 100) mailbox and around the school. I also sent around a mass email that took a while to compose (and got me praise from the Director of the school, as well), and put small posters around. This took over 1.5 hours last Tuesday afternoon.

So last week was a really bad week for me. I started crying for about an hour a day, losing my appetite, constantly exhausted...all this over and above the major workload I have for school. This is where the problem comes in: not only did I never even get a "thank you" for spending the time and doing what I did last week, but I was told to make even MORE ballots (although it wasn't directed directly at me...no name mentioned), which I did not have time for. Neither did I have time to make the poster between my bouts of bawling and research and group meetings. The poster didn't get put up until today. I haven't received any emails from any members of the group for a few days now, which is VERY ODD. I usually get about 3-6 per DAY, and I haven't gotten any since Thursday, which makes me think that they either kicked me out of the group without telling me, or are trying to force me out by ignoring me. I emailed the co-chairs of the group yesterday saying that the poster would be up today, and that it didn't get done because last week was a bad week for me overall. I haven't heard ANYTHING from them, not even acknowledgement that they even got the email, and it's been almost 24 hours.

I'm really upset about this! I feel betrayed. I do ONE THING out of character and I get ostracized? I don't get it.

So...what do you think? Do you think I'm overreacting, or am I really being ignored? Should I resign? If I do, should I send the letter only to the co-chairs or to the whole executive, including the professors who advise us so it doesn't get warped? What should I do???

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Rebecca




Edited 2/14/2005 3:02 pm ET ET by silverlightcanada
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Registered: 07-01-2004
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 4:46pm

((((Rebecca)))) I am not sure I understand why anyone would stop talking to you. It could be just bad timing in the situation. That they simply did not contact you for random reasons and you are attributing it to you. That happens sometimes.

I am thinking that you would have been contacted if they did not want you in the group. It seems to me that they would have had the good sense to tell you something.

I wish I had more to say. But give it some time, and if you have a random email to send to one of them, then do that and see what happens.

I am sorry you are having issues, but I must say I am glad to see you back on the board. I always remember you to be a sweet and compassionate lady.

Sometimes we take things to heart, that are just random events. I hope this situation gets better for you soon.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 7:58pm

((((((Lisa))))))

Thank you for your kind words. I hope that it IS just a random thing that I'm mistakenly attributing to me. I have a feeling that it isn't, but I can still hope I guess.

I took your advice and sent an email to three of the members (the two co-chairs and the other girl who shares my position). If I don't hear anything by tomorrow evening, I'll know.

I'll let you know what happens, for better or worse.

Take care *hugs*

Rebecca

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 9:08am

(((((Rebecca))))), I wouldn't make any snap decisions.