Am I depressed?
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| Wed, 07-29-2009 - 9:16pm |
Hi Everyone,
I have been depressed in the past and I don't feel the same as I did then, but I have problems getting out of bed and going to work or just getting out of bed period. I am having problems at work with my boss and our HR dept. I suffer from migraines about once a week, and I am hypothyroid, which makes me tired and within the past two months I have been missing more and more work. I have used up all of my vacation days and personal days. My boss told me that I am no longer permitted to take any days off the rest of the year. My husband and I planned a vacation for our 10th wedding anniversary at the end of august. I have asked to speak to the VP of HR and explain all of my health conditions to her. In hopes to be able to take my vacation. My husband will kill me if I tell him I can't go because they won't let me.
I think that my boss is trying to use them against me and the lady incharge of the FMLA at my office is telling me that I have to have forms for each condition and I don't want to bombard her with paperwork. I have papers in for my migraines and I just asked for papers for my therapist and she told me that I must make those apt after work. The therapist that I like works 9-5. I can't afford to quit work and I actually like my job, but I cannot stand my boss. I get so down some days that I need to stay home because I just can't get up and take a shower and get dressed. I am currently on 350mg of Effexor and 350mg of Wellbutrin. I don't want to go back to my doc because I'm afraid he will increase my meds and I allready have problems with the amount I take. I'm 31 and I take 6 pills a day, all prescriptions.
I don't know what to tell my HR lady. I want to be honest with her and let her know that I'm having problems. They just left a irl go in my dept. because she asked to take a leave of absence. I'm afraid that if I tell her everything she will ask me to take a leave and my boss will ask me to resign.
I think a vacation will actually help me. I really need to connect with my husband. I feel like he isn't in love with me anymore. I feel like I'm loosing my life.
Chris

Hey Chris! Welcome to DS.
Definitely speak to the VP of your Human Resources department. Find out what your options are at this point. I do believe a company can terminate an employee for excessive absences. It seems like every company these days are at-will meaning they can get rid of you for petty/no reasons. Also I am sure that you need the consent of your supervisor to take a leave of absense. It sucks all the way around.
My honest opinion is that something is not working with your meds. I think that you should go to the doc and ask to have them changed.
Please keep us posted. I will be thinking of you.