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| Tue, 08-04-2009 - 3:33pm |
Hello. I am having a particularly hard time right now. This is what has happened in the last 18 months:
1. My only child (daughter) is now 18 and stays at friends houses for long periods because she thinks she's grown up but can't afford to move out. We used to be very close and now its like we are strangers and nothing either of us says comes out right. She has always been a respectful young girl and I know this is somewhat normal but it really hurts.
2. My house has been burglarized by my neighbor 3 times (I know who it is and so do the police, but we just can't prove it). Had no insurance but do now but that was after he took everything of value, TV's, cameras, camcorders, etc.
3. Doctor told me I need an Ablation but what if I want more kids? I'm 40 and single but it is still a huge sticking point if I want to go through with this surgery.
4. Broke up with my ex who was in the middle of divorce (he was separated for 2 years and I was not the reason or the other woman. His sister is my friend and she set us up knowing the divorce was imminent). However, we dated for almost two years and the divorce remained stalled because he hates confrontation so he just lives in his own house and ignores the issue so I left. I have known him and his family for years, so its hard to just "forget" about him even though I made the right decision....my heart still hurts.
5. My daughter's friend stole my prescription and I confronted him. He denied it, but he was the only one in my house. My daughter remains friends with him. Wow - this just killed me. This is so unlike her...all of us...family and friends can't believe she is ok with this. My daughter has always been a good student, respectful and loving.
6. I got a new boss last year and he is making my life so miserable, constantly criticizing, talking negative about me behind my back, etc. I complained about him and it got worse. I took a medical leave and am thinking of getting an attorney. I am in Human Resources and this kind of thing happens regardless if you are a professional or a line employee. People suck. He sucks.
7. I have a weekly support group, but all of my friends are married with little kids so they don't understand what I am experiencing. I have been a single parent the last 18 years and was only married for a few years. Father is completely out of the picture.
I do have friends, my brother and activities that I enjoy, however, I am not used to feeling blue like this. It's a little scary and overwhelming for me. I have tried counseling in the past, but for the most part it didn't help. I am usually the strong one, so those close to me have a hard time hearing me sad or depressed....
Any insight or advice would be welcomed, but I don't need anger or harsh words, just a little understanding. Thanks....

Welcome to DS! I am glad that you found us. Wow! You really have been put through the ringer these past 18 months. I know, my life has been something else too.
Some issues need clouser (sp). A good way to start with that is get a spiral notebook (can get them really cheap right now). Write a letter to each person or scenario that has been giving you troubles. When you are done either burn or bury it Say goodbye to it and "I am not letting you interfer with my life!". Make peace with each one. You might be pleasantly surprised with the results.
I hope this helps you out, even a tiny bit.