I have Had IT !!!

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Registered: 08-15-2008
I have Had IT !!!
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Wed, 08-19-2009 - 1:46pm

I have so had it with this life. I can't do this any more. MY daughter who is 23 is lazy, will not find a job, and does not do anything around this house to help.


I helped her buy a car 2 years ago. I made the payments for 1 year. That was plenty of time for her to get her act together, but did she? NO! so I told her the second year she is too make the payments. Well, I finally had had it, and told them to repo- the car. NOW this has also come back to bite me in the butt, the car was in  my name, and now my credit sucks thanks to her, and has she even tried to find a job ? NO!!! why should she.?


I hate my life I wish she was never born I wish I was never born. MY life has been 1 mistake after another. CRAP< I wasn't even wanted at birth and was put up for adoption.


I thought that my adopted mother wanted me, well now years later she never did. My Dad wanted a child so whatever he said went, and now that he is gone, everything he said she is now doing just the opposite. And hurting me along the way. I don't know what to do. I an widowed haven't gone out done anything for 9 years and here I sit night after night, alone. And I do not want to live this way any more. I'd end my ;life the only thing is I will have to repeat that life over again, and that is what I am doing right now. REPEATING a life. So this life of full of disappointments and loneliness. And not to mention grief, Grief of not finding a job, not having any friends and grief of having a daughter who is lazy and not motivated. and who thinks of no one but her selfish self. NO MORE< I QUIT !!!

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Registered: 08-06-2009
Wed, 08-19-2009 - 2:33pm
Do you understand that your daughter is holding you hostage?
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Registered: 09-02-2005
Thu, 08-20-2009 - 1:02pm
Listen to Deb. She gave you some great advice! Give DD an ultimatum or kick her out. Take back your life. Take control over your life. You deserve it!


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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 12:01pm
Yep, you're a hostage alright! You might find it helpful to read "Codependent No More". It can really help you establish your boundaries which in turn will ultimately help your daughter out more than anything.
**gentle hugs**

Gail
**gentle hugs**

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Registered: 05-23-2009
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 6:33pm

Hey hon,