Had a talk w/ my 6 year old - hard
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| Tue, 08-25-2009 - 1:44pm |
I had a talk with my 6 year old and it was really really hard. Let me back it up. For about two weeks, Allison complained of tummy aches vomitted 3 times all at bed time. I didnt understand why. No illness, no one sick around her . . . . I ended up having a really nice mom to mom talk with a neighbor. Her daughter and Allison are bff's.
Anyway, we put two and two together. She was upset because of surrounding circumstances. Erik's car accident and the cats fighting all in one day - she vommited the next night, had 6 year physical - bellyache, didn't get what she wanted - vommited that night. See what I mean?
I ended up sitting her down and talking with her. I told her I would like it if she didn't hold things in. That she can talk to me about anything, I mean anything, that way it will help prevent some of these bellyaches and what not. I even told her to talk to her stuffed animals or draw pictures . . .just do not hold it inside.
For a little over a week now I have been letting her talk and talk to me at bedtime even about redundant stuff. No vomitting, no bellyache.





Hi there... I came to the board to post about some feelings of depression I'm having today and stumbled upon your message.
Thank you for your reply! I really do take my daughter seriously. If she is not feeling well, I am not well. If she is sad, I am sad. KWIM? She had a bellyache again last night. It came out that she was upset because Remy (cat) was having surgery today and she didn't want him to go. So we talked about what is going to happen and what it is going to be like when he comes home. Daddy then came in and sang to her and out she went! No vomit!
I am starting to keep a journal of all of this. It very well may warrant a visit to the pedi. I just hate that she is hurting like this. I am trying to give her some tools that can help work out her anxiety. I don't want her to end up taking a pill later on because I have to.
I can tell you this, when I was a kid, my mom would always tell me that "oh, you are just sensitive to things" and threaten to take me to a doctor to get a shot. That terrified me! Then eventually I learned just to keep my mouth shut because my mom doesnt want to help. I vowed not to do that to my child. If Allison is hurting, I am going to do whatever I can to help it go away.