I feel like such a loser!
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| Thu, 09-03-2009 - 12:32pm |
I am never happy! How can that be? I am just never happy!! I should be happy and I should be thankful for things.
I just feel like such a godda#n loser all the time. I can't shake it. I look at my friends and they all seem to have things figured out and their lives seem so GREAT! I look at mine and I'm like. It sucks. It blows and I just get so sad and depressed.
My friends have travelled and they have advanced degrees. I haven't travelled nearly as much as them and I don't have a Master's or above and I feel so stupid.
I honestly look at what I've done and what I have accomplished and I feel like it's all S%it! Like I've done NOTHING!!!!!!! And then I think, you still don't have an advanced degree and you haven't travelled. Stupid! Piece of s^it! That's how I feel. We just bought a newer house in a great neighborhood, I have a pretty good job, travelled domestically alot and married to a great guy and we're trying to start a fam, but I can't shake this LOSER part.
I really try to just say ok this is my life and i have to make myself happy and i just can't seem to do that. I don't know what is wrong with me?!?!
I can't stop feeling like such a huge loser.

First of all, welcome to DS. Second you are lost a loser. Honestly, I think you are suffering from low self esteem. I am going to give you a link to IV's self-esteem support board. It is a great group of ladies over there and such a tremendous support:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhselfesteem
I think the way you do at times - longing for what others have. But you know what? It took me a long time to realize I am the one that can change that. I learned to be content with what I have.
Stop in and let us know how you are doing.
Just watch this and tell me your feedback
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnLVRQCjh8c
Hi,
I already responded to your post in the self-esteem board but here is an addendum:
Why do you feel the need to have an advanced degree and travel internationally? Is it just because all your friends have done these things?
It sounds like you have some cognitive distortions, but I can totally relate. From the outside it looks like I should be perfectly happy with my life, but I'm depressed anyway. Sometimes I compare myself to other people unfavorably. My last boyfriend went to an Ivy League school and I remember being jealous and feeling inferior to him. I was even jealous of his ex-girlfriend because she went to the same school. It felt real even though on some level I knew it was ridiculous.
One thing that helps me a lot is doing charity work. I not only spend time with other great people, I get a lot of self-esteem from helping others as well as the perspective that I really am fortunate. Why not check your local paper or your church announcements for volunteer opportunities? In the past I've helped clean up local streams, done weeding and planting at a community garden, and cooked food for a homeless shelter. Try it. It's not an instant fix for your issues but it will make you feel great.