Not getting over Break Up
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| Tue, 09-15-2009 - 1:53am |
I am pretty bad off. We broke up a month ago and I am still not over it. It just hurts so bad. We only dated for 6 months!!! What is wrong with me?????
I have sent him 2 text messages since we broke up, and no response for either one. (No calls, no emails, no other contact or stalking...no creepy stuff) Since I feel desperation kicking in here. I deleted his numbers from my phone. I had my friend scribble over his numbers in my daytimer phonebook to the point of no return. I didn't ever memorize the numbers...so problem solved. I just don't understand how I can want someone so badly who so obviously does not want me.
There isn't a whole lot to this story...things started out amazing...then he cooled off. Instead of looking desperate I broke it off.
But if one more person says "Oh your too good for him" or "You can do so much better" or (this is the real kicker) "He doesn't deserve you" I will absolutely freak out!
I am NOT too good for him! Obviously I have never done better then him, he is a great guy.
What if it is because he is too good for me? I am the one who is the loser in this. He obviously realized that. In truth, it was the same thing with my ex-husband. No doubt he is an a$$...but he settled with me. I was NOT what he wanted.
I could start a list of all the reasons why I am a loser, those things that made C. cool off towards me. But I don't even have the energy to do it.
I just had the most wonderful weekend too! I went to the race track...spent time with my friends--had a blast. But on my way home Saturday night...I just started crying. It was like...being happy for the first time, only made me crash harder. Is that weird???

That's tough but it happens quite a bit. There can be lots of reasons none of which have to do with you. We never know what is going on the heads of other people. Things may feel so right to you but the other person may not be telling you something. Possibly there's something specific that they're looking for that you don't quite match.
Point is, blaming yourself and or becoming depressed from low esteem is something that needs to be avoided. Time heals and though you liked him a great deal and still feel the sting, it will dissipate in time. Then begins the process of finding someone else. It's cliche I know, but there truly is someone for everyone. A simple saying yes, but very true.
Six months is plenty of time to get very attached to someone, even to fall in love, so don't feel like you shouldn't