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| Tue, 09-22-2009 - 8:13pm |
Ok...a little history...apparently I have been depressed for a while and I have anxiety issues, which I knew about and was taking Prozac to help with it. A few weeks ago my dh left me because of some financial issues and lying, overall he lost trust in me...fine and I am dealing with my issues by going to therapy and seeing a psychiatrist which we both agreed was in the best interest of our marriage and for me. He attends therapy every 3 weeks or so. So fast forward to my 2nd visit to the psych at $40 a visit coupled with my 2nd RX from him for anxiety (Klonopin and Wellburtrin). Well he asked me "what is the new RX for?" and then I got hit with "when do you have to go back?" His attitude was fine when he got up from bed and then saw the charges for today on our debit activity. I'm at the point of being apprehensive about going for help because he is going to complain about it. It is helping and honsestly I have been so happy and upbeat this past week but I feel he is bringing me down.
I am going to discuss this with my therapist next week and I'm sure she will discuss it with him during our visit together. I think I am going to have to stand strong and say to him that I am going to therpay and keep on my medications. I work too and granted I don't make a lot of money I still make money and damnit I have the right to be happy...don't I?
He has been trying to let me know he is boss the past few weeks by controlling our money and bills. I know I have an issue with spending money and I am fine with what needs to be done but he shouldn't be making me feel guilty about getting help!
I know he doesn't believe in depression or anxiety as our pastor led a sermon last week about depression...he said if you are on a proper diet and get plenty of rest you will be fine...don't buy in to that and I don't think I will be attending chruch with my dh and kids anytime soon. He was also raised that you don't talk to strangers about your problems or take medications on a regular basis.
Anyone else have these issues with spouses or family members? Help...please.


Your post made me see my life in 5 years if I don't get help now.
My bf (of 5 years) and I broke up because of my financial troubles and lying (mostly because I was embarrassed) and now that has severely affected my depression as well. The bf also stated that he didn't believe in depression, but thankfully hasn't said anymore about it since we got into a fight and I threw my bottle of Wellbutrin at him.
What is wrong with men tbese days? My DH thought it was all a joke until I went to the doc and got on the meds. He finally saw what a difference it made in my overall being and now has to remind me to get the refills.
Yes, with the therapists guidance, talk to DH about this. Let him know it is for the better, for the better you, for the better marriage.
I understand how you feel, I don't think my husband believes in depression either.
I am fortunate to have a husband who is supportive of my therapy and my meds.
I agree with you on not going back to that particular church, but maybe you can find a better one.