Need Help/Inspiration

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2009
Need Help/Inspiration
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Sun, 10-18-2009 - 5:47pm

Hello,


I've been struggling with depression since I was a child.  I recently got out of a very co-dependent relationship and I am not doing very well.  In addition to grieving the loss of someone that I love very, very much, I am also very isolated.  Due to a cross country move, and an extremely intense relationship, I haven't been able to make any friends.  I find it difficult to ascribe any meaning to anything as I am so damn alone. 


I am doing the things that I am "supposed" to be doing: medication, therapy, the gym, etc.  But it's just not enough.  Being this alone makes it even more difficult to not contact my ex...it is a fight every minute, of every day.


Of course I am embarassed to talk about this with friends, family, or co-workers and this is why I have chosen the discussion board.  If anyone has any advice or inspiration, it would be greatly, greatly appreciated.  I'm also interested in online meetings as well.


Thanks,


Lost.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 10-18-2009 - 7:29pm

Hi there,


Welcome to the board. I'm actually not a very frequent poster but your post caught my attention. I think it's great you're going to the gym, taking meds and staying in therapy. Those are all necessary but I understand how it's not quite enough when loneliness kicks in. You said you were in a very co-dependent relationship so have you considered Al-Anon? Going to Al-Anon meetings might give you a great venue for meeting new

**gentle hugs**

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2009
Sun, 10-18-2009 - 7:42pm

Thanks for your post...I have been in and out of alanon for years and God help me, it seems every time I go to see when the next meeting is I have missed it.


Thanks for the reminder though...I need it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2007
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 4:04pm

What about support groups in your area? Or spreading out to other message boards on iVillage as well as here. Internet friendships can be great relationships and ways to heal and have fun.

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Registered: 05-07-2009
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 8:29pm

Hi - (In addition to all the good thingsyou are doing)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2009
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 9:03pm

What a great post.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 5:32am

Glad you answered!

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 12:16pm

I thought I was desperately alone until I was at my breaking point and preparing to leave my family. I finally confessed to some friends/acquaintances. They came around me and supported me and I found out that one of them had been through everything I was going through the year before. It is amazing the relief that can come from finding other like minded people. We are here.

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 12:19pm

I am hoping your anti depressant will help. I found that I started feeling better right away one mine. I know it was all in my head, but just feeling like there was hope helped me so much.

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